I have PTSD and a surviver of sexual abuse

[Steve_A]

Hi there, I have a lot of issues going on and have hit the bottle hard for a long time to cope. This has caused my marriage to break down and my wife wants to separate. I don't want this to happen because I love her and she is my best friend and I have realised she is pretty much my only friend. I'm at a loss as to what to do... she is amazing and wants me to stay at home because she loves me as a friend and cares about me. I have realised that as kind as that is, she doesn't need that stress and our 4 kids need a happy mum. I have seen a lot of councillors over the past 12 months and am getting better but I'm worried about reverting back to my old habits if I move out...... I have types a few questions Next, but how do you watch the women you love move on when you want it to be you even though you know it's your issues that have made her move on?????

[Sophie_M]

Hi Steve_A,

It sounds like a really difficult time you're going through. We want you to know that you have been so brave by sharing here, and we are sorry we haven't sent a reply before now. We are here for you, you don't have to go through this alone. It's really good to hear that you've been getting support and doing what you can to feel better, which is not easy.

Your strong feelings for your wife are really clear to see, and we're really sorry to hear that you're facing so much uncertainty in the relationship. It sounds like a separation will be really difficult, and it's so important that you keep using the support you've set up for yourself. You can also call Beyond Blue, at any moment you need help, on 1300 22 4636. We're also available on webchat, for those moments when it's hard to pick up the phone, and you'd rather speak to someone online.

We'd really recommend making contact with Blue Knot, on 1300 657 380 (Monday – Sunday between 9am - 5pm AEST). They provide trauma counselling to anyone who has experienced childhood trauma.

This community is also here for you, and are inspired by your words. We really hope you find some comfort on the forums, as you might find other people can relate to some of the things you're going through. Please do share more with us here on how you're feeling and what might help, if you feel up to it. you never know who else might see your post and feel less alone in their own experiences.

Kind regards,

Sophie M

[Ferne]

Hi Sophie-M,

Thank you for you thoughtful responses.

I have anxiety, depression, complex trauma, ( traumatic psychosis) and chronic neuropathic pain.

I have my Psychatrist, GP, and Physiotherapist.

Blue knot, is one of the many groups I relied on for support.

Mindful breathing; I am continually practicing, relying on my mindful breathing to help me cope with flashbacks and chronic pain, to get me through my day.

kind Regards
sharon

[Frangepani]

Hi there my names Leigh and im a survivor I know all bout the struggles the hardships I've fought so hard for years just to survive to make it through thinking all the while that I wasn't deserving of anything good in my life. So much as happened in my life but I believe that it has made me the person I am today and that is a gutsy strong willed determined person who wants all the beautiful things in life that each day goes by im starting slowly to believe I deserve them I don't have support especially from my family I've had to fight this battle on my own by reaching out to people professionals who have helped me and are understanding of what I'm going through. I would love to reach out to people who get it who knows what its like to be a survivor. I wish you positivity in life. I believe nothing comes easy in life but for me personally I'm at the stage where I'm ready to say no more I've had enough things are going to change and I believe that is only from doing the hard work which what it takes to get better. Im new here yr the first person I've responded too I hope you can find some solace in what I've said.

[Frangepani]

Hi Steve im really sorry for what you are going through im going through the exact same thing thankyou for sharing your story if you would like to reply to me I would like that I feel I need to connect with people who truly get it who knows all bout the pain and suffering and believe you me I have suffered. If I can share my story with you in anyway and it helps you then im prepared to do that. I hope you are doing ok. Believe you can get through it and get to the other side where the sun is shining brightly for people just like you and me please take care I wish you all the best. Im here if you feel like reaching out.