I hate my parents what do I do?

Tomwce
Community Member

Before I start I just want to say I know my situation is no where near as bad as other kids but I could really use some help.

i want to start by saying that I had a great childhood, my parents are among the wealthier people so I always had the coolest toys and nice clothes and for that I am forever grateful, but around the time I started high school is when everything fell apart. They would check my phone every night and go through my room once a week to make sure I wasn’t hiding anything and at the time I thought fair enough they’re just making sure I’m not doing anything bad but I’m 17 turning 18 this year and they’re still doing it. As my mates and i got older their parents became more relaxed but mine became unbearable to live with. I’m not allowed out past 7, I can’t go anywhere that’s too far from my house, they check my phone, my room, my phone plan usage, my bank statements and all kinds of things along the lines of that. Most people I tell just think I have overprotective parents but they aren’t like that to protect me, they do it so they can find something I’ve done wrong and get me in trouble for it. They seem almost desperate to catch me doing something I shouldn’t, last week my dad told me he wished I was never born because I left my ceiling fan on when I left my room to get lunch from the kitchen. They let my younger sister do everything she wants, she doesn’t have a curfew, she doesn’t have to hand her phone in or anything like that, and I’ve never done anything to give them a reason to. I hate them because they make me feel like everything I do is wrong, whenever I do something I worry about what they will say because they’re so unpredictable with what they will get mad at me for. Everything I do seems like an excuse for my dad to try and intimidate me and if I fight back or tell them how I feel it always ends up getting violent between me and dad. I don’t know what to do because I can’t keep living like this I’m in grade 12 and I’m trying to get the best marks so I can get a good job and move out but I’m failing and falling behind because the stress of school and my parents is too much. I feel hopeless and don’t know what to do.

 

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Sophie_M
Moderator
Moderator
Hi Tomwce,

Thank you so much for reaching out tonight. We hope that you find some support within our community here on the forums. Please know that there is always help available to you - we have sent you a private message with some additional support.


Sophie

Bee007
Community Member
Hi Tomwce, I'm really sorry to hear what you are going through. I had a similar situation when I was growing up. I ended up moving away from home to finish year 12. It was hard but it gave me resiliance and I was able to go onto uni and gain a degree. If things are becoming too much at home talking to someone who is impartial now may help like a school counselor or close friend. don't know the best way forward for you but seeking some support may help you plan a strategy forward and not feel so alone. Cheers Bee