I don’t like my dad

[Tomyy]

Me and my dad have always have had our ups and downs. He is anger issues, is very loud and stubborn, and always thinks his right. I am also 20 years of age. So earlier this year, my dad got very angry and short tempered that I didn’t help my brothers homework properly, so he physically assaulted me. He didn’t apologise or anything to me but after a few weeks we moved on. Today we had a big argument, he doesn’t like one of my friends and gets annoyed when I hang with him. He’s heard rumours about him from family members which are lies, and I told my dad they are lies but he believes them. I told him that I am 20 years old , and that I am responsible for my own decisions , and you can’t pick and chose who I am friends with because I’m not a child. He then got very angry and was threatening in his words. I just really dislike him and want nothing to do with him.

[Sophie_M]

Hey Tomyy,

Wishing you a warm welcome to these safe and non-judgemental forums. We are so glad that you decided to reach out here tonight, but we are so sorry to hear about what you've been going through with your Dad. It sounds like you are experiencing domestic/family violence and we know that this must be very difficult to live with. We can hear that this is a really difficult time for you, and please know that you are strong, valuable and you have a right to live free from abuse. We are also currently reaching out to you through email with some additional support.

We would strongly urge that you contact our friends at1800RESPECT, who offer confidential information, counselling and support 24/7 for people impacted by domestic or family violence and abuse. The lovely, supportive counsellors have a lot of experience offering advice to people in your situation, and you can contact them anytime, day or night, on 1800 737 732 or also through their online chat: https://www.1800respect.org.au/

We'd also really encourage you to reach out to our friends at Kids Helpline- who offer confidential and anonymous telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under. Please do reach out to them anytime on 1800 55 1800 or you can also get in touch through their 24/7 online chat if you'd prefer to talk online: https://kidshelpline.com.au/ One of the friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals to help you through this difficult time.

Hopefully a few of our caring community community members will pop by soon to offer you some words of support and advice. We're all here to help you through this, and please feel free to keep updating us here on your thread, whenever you feel ready. 

[Tay100]

Hi Tomyy

Thanks for reaching out, we know it can be hard to share tough things that involve those we love. In addition to the suggestions by Sophie_M, you can also explore the forums for advice and support from those who have experienced similar things. You can use this particular thread to continue to share your story if you don't feel like sharing it out loud right now, and to keep us updated on your journey as you seek out help.

Tay100