hi everyone I'm new to this seeking help

[krisbow]

my husband of 7yrs together for 15 has just been diagnosed with ptsd due to a near drowning.

my husband is a very gentle none aggressive person we have had pretty cruezy marriage little hiccups along the way ,we own our own business which is extremely busy I'm a shift worker (nurse) .A month ago prior to diagnosis he approached me with I don't love you anymore ,we have always been loving towards each other great sex life I was shocked he continued to live as normal same bed etc , he moved his stuff out but never left himself ,sorry he did for 2 nights.He is now on medication only a week so not even kicked in yet ,a week ago he took me out for dinner

asked if I wanted to try and work on our marriage of course I agreed ,he's moved stuff back in things are very weird /painful watching him go through this his daughter 9yrs old they were inseparable he has pushed her away ,my question is can we get through this as family ,honestly I don't what to do I feel like I don't no him he's not there but is .

he is seeing councelor next week anyone have any tips for myself /children

[geoff]

Hello Krisbow, and a warm welcome to you.

Your husband has been through a lot and experienced such devastation so the follow through effect has affected you all and I'm so sorry that this has happened.

A person in a marriage or a relationship suffering from any type of depression may make unusual comments to the person they love and then say they are leaving the family, they need time alone and don't want to be asked a question because they have no answer to it, simply because they don't know.

That's no fault of anybody and it will take a few more weeks for the medication to kick in as you know, and hopefully there won't be any side-effects.

His daughter must be so confused not understanding why this has happened, as there isn't any preparation, however if you contacted Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 they would be able to help her.

For yourself I would book a double appointment with your doctor who may refer you on to a psychologist, under the 'mental health plan', which entitles you to 10 free sessions.

Please let us know how everything works out.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[krisbow]

thank so much for your kind words .I have an appointment booked in for the doctor for myself and my children

hard times I hope we get through this we have always been a strong couple and this has come as a massive shock heartbreak .

I'm trying to hang in there with the hope everything will work out