Hey, i am new to this but i am unsure of how i want to attack my trauma. (My spelling is bad)
I am a young female adult. I have just got out of court with placing a cross dvo order on my ex. He placed one on me becasue he knew i was going to place one on him. I have taken matters to the cops aswell and it is getting looked into.
I dont have the nightmares everynight anymore but i do still stuggle, when things happen or places remind me of him or his actions. I am unsure if threapy will help beacuse i am kidna already going though exposure threapy by being in a new realationship. (I know it is not usally the best idea but it has helped me more than if i stayed alone).
I stuggle alot with sexual trauma and now stuggle from trauma respone tricks and crying break downs, where i feel like i am back with him. Stuck frozen. My boyfriend does really good with these telling me to look around and name things and stops and hugs me. But i cant help but feel bad about it all.
I have been in threapy before for anitexty and drepression. I got meds while with my ex about three months into dating, but i feel my threapy was never used right because my ex would ask me for every detail to check i was not talking about him or us. So i never did.
He islocted me from my 10year friend group and my family and tricked me into thinking they are all bad for me and he is the only good thing in my life. He assulted me, sexually and pshylicaly and alot of mental. I dropped all my hobbies and lost my passion for everything i loved beacuse he would talk down on it or just make it so hard to do my hobbies.
And even though i have rebuild so much as a person i still stuggle and wonder if threapy does help with pdsd truama shut downs? Or atleast lessens them or can teach me and my boyfriend how to try avoid them from happing.
I have spotted no patterns of why it happens. And i now have anxiety tricks more than i use to. I dont know how to make my body notice it is safe now.
Any tips or tricks? for what helped you or helping you.
Thank you
