Completely Repressed Memories

hankm · ‎07-09-2018

Im a 27 yo male who recently saw a counsellor with my gf for some relationship counselling, The guy we saw only had a tafe degree, which at the time I wasn't aware. He spoke about neuroplasticity and creating new connections in the brain and accessing your unconscious mind through adult learning- he performed psychonalysis (which I wasn't aware of at the time) and picked up on a deep child hood trauma I had no idea about and retraumatized me using nlp an suggestion therapy without even explaining to me what was going on. The guy told me in the last session I saw him that he did it to teach me a lesson that I wasn't better then other people, The recovered memory/flashbacks ive been having have been severe, Its like my nervous system has shut down too. I know that the holisitic psychologist believe that traumas are stored in the nervous system Has anyone ever heard of anything like this? Ive been seeing a psych now and they believe it could be OCD- that doesn't explain the recovered memory.

StaticRose51 · ‎07-09-2018

?? you went with your gf to deal with a repressed memory how stressful must that have been/ kudos to you.

I can't go to therapy and have someone with me...those days are gone.

hankm · ‎08-09-2018

no, I went there for relationship counselling, we did a session together and then some solo sessions which I thought was a bit weird.. he picked up on something i was completely unaware of in those sessions and retraumatized me to something that happened 20 years ago- it has completely changed the way I think and feel...im not sure if stuff like this can be reversed?

therising · ‎09-09-2018

Hi hankm

So sorry to hear you're going through such a seriously challenging time. Sounds like a Pandora's box scenario, with the counsellor not realising exactly what he was opening up. I would suggest you find someone who knows how to deal with repressed memories before things escalate any further.

Neuroplasticity, epigenetics and so on are complex areas and relatively new as far as the science/medical history timeline goes. Although they are seriously exciting and promising territories, people need to know exactly how to deal with such territories when the landscape suddenly changes (like in your case). Our nervous systems are rather complex in the way they relate to our brain and chemistry so, again, I would suggest finding a professional who knows exactly how to deal with the Pandora's box situation you now find yourself in. Do not settle for a professional who refuses to help you constructively sort this out.

I really feel for you hankm and I hope you find the guidance you need asap. Take care of yourself

StaticRose51 · ‎23-09-2018

The rising has a point and things that are relatively new sciences can be frustrating to work through. I am going through the same thing at the moment. NLP worked a lot for me as well some other things. But worth actually going to a session in the end if half the battle, if you find someone who appreciates you and actually listens instead of say, for instance worrying about their financial gains it so worth it! This really frustrates me to no end. And right now I need to a coffee and calm the hell down.

You deserve to be supported in your endeavors and essentially have friends in this area too like us who care and push you to be your best self. Even if that means dealing with their crap when they are frustated with you because they know you can do better 🙂 Actually I think if you reach this point then you know you truly have friends who care.

Kind regards and hope to hear from you soon, keep us informed of any and all progress 🙂

StaticRose51 · ‎24-09-2018

I realize that at this point you may be fragile but I think that having experienced this myself the reason why you are retraumatized is simply because, you still have not dealt with your anchors and or triggers that cause you to be traumatized in the first place! An Aha moment.

Do you feel like sharing your story at all your 27 at some point you are going to have give away things like outings and binge drinks ect.

I mean this with respect let me say that if you have moments when you freeze...do you not fell like you should own your fears...not them owning you. Be able able to speak about your triumphs and ultimately be able to own your own story. Do you have family or friends to inspire love and support you on your journey of growth. Also Have the freedom to truly express your joys and things you care about with those who care about you. Then whatever responsibilities you have can finally find balance in amongst all this internal struggle.

Talk soon it's okay to open up a little.

StaticRose51 · ‎24-09-2018

Hi The rising I really like your support you have offered to hankm that's been great. This is what the forums are all about and I really wish Hank all the positive he can get right now.

Speaking of childhood traumas it's just so hard to get counseling for them safely I wish I did it when I was younger , because now I could very well be in a position with a partner when I need to take time out to deal with my issues and create better anchors in my mind. Whilst I have a distraction like a uni to keep me busy and full-time work too. Socialising has become a problem and I have further retreated into my shell a grumpy shell at that..Also, I know that I need to start making big huge changes soon so I may not be here for a few days so will come back later. Above all, I say that life is meant to be lived and enjoyed wholesomely enjoyed mind you doesn't mean you have to lose yourself partying or letting yourself be used by those insincere types.