Child sexual abuse survivor

[Callumm]

Hi there, thanks for reading. My story starts at 11 years old I was sexually abused continuously for 5 years by my birth mothers partner until I was 16 and moved out. I reported this to the police in my 20s, they took my detailed statement, investigated and nothing has happened. I don’t know what else to do, My birth mother was told about what had happened to me and she is still with him so that says a lot about her. I’ve been estranged from family because I didn’t know what else to do. I’m now in my 30s looking at recovery. It’s just hard being alone and not having anyone to turn too. Any suggestions would be very appreciated.

[Summer Rose]

Hi Callumm

I am so sorry to hear that you were a victim of childhood sexual abuse. Even sorrier to learn that the criminal justice system and your mother also let you down.

You deserve so much more. So much better. I really want to reach out a hand in friendship as you work towards recovery. And I'm sure there will be others on the forum who will want to do the same.

You sound like a really brave person. You have not only survived but are working your way toward a better life. You should be very proud of youself.

Some professional suppport would really help you to keep moving forward. I'm wondering if you have ever received psychological help and if you are receiving any professional help now?

Kind thoughts to you

[PamelaR]

Hi Callumm and very warm welcome to our community forums

My heart goes out to you. What an awful childhood and then not to be believed. It makes your recovery feel as those it's even more difficult.

You're not alone Callumm. There are many of us here in the community who have been through similar circumstances. I know this doesn't help you, though maybe it gives you some assurance you are being listened to and being believed.

Doing recovery on your own must be very difficult. My hubby has been by my side throughout my recovery - thank goodness. However, both my parents and the perpetrators all died long before I started on my journey to recovery. That made it hard to get closure - but closure I did.

Recovering has taken me years and the road has been bumpy. I have moved on with my life, though there are times something frazzles me and I spiral into anxiety and depression. However, with the therapy I have, the medication I take and the support of a loving husband I am able to manage and to work my way out of these episodes.

I know you have seen the Police. Have there been any other services that you've approached? I think each state has set up services for adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. I'm not totally sure about what services they provide other than counselling. They may help in getting some action? Have you approached a service like that?

Hope some of this helps Callumm. Keep reaching out if and when you want to.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[31083]

Hi Callumm,

There is a group called SAMSON that are in NSW that run group session for male sexual assault survivors. If you google SAMSON their website is easy to find. If you reside in another state they maybe able to put you in contact with a similar organisation.

Thanks,

Darren