please talk to me on gold coast

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ello, please can someone help me on the gold coast, its a suburb like any other, not that glamourous as people think. I don't even go to the beach after years when I was younger I have had enough of the beach, but can not move because of my teenagers life, little bit of family and few friends it will excelerate her despression. I am feeling so down it is so hard to get thru the day at one job I have absolutely nothing to do but sit and stare out the window until someone gives me a 5 minute job yet I am grateful I am employed so grateful becuase it keeps a roof over my and teenagers head. I am so low that I need a partner to go home to share, cuddle and feel needed for. please help me my teenager doesnt know how to handle it and closes themself in their room on internet. anyone on the gold coast i can met and live with to just enjoy a simple life please. warm regards from sam.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Sam, welcome to the forums.  It sounds like you're feeling very isolated at the moment.  While we can't help you here with finding a partner (this is an anonymous forum where offline contact with members is not permitted), we can certainly talk with you about what's going on in your life and help you talk things through.  We look forward to hearing more from you.
 

[james1]

hello sam gc,

welcome to the forums and i'm very glad that you were able to post such an honest and heartfelt post. i can really hear that you are struggling right now with the direction of your life and having no one to share it with. that can be really lonely.

i also struggled with isolation a few years ago, and i have also heard from many others on the forums here who have had similar experiences.

so it is really good to hear that you are trying to break that by speaking to us.

It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life at the moment. It's times like this when having good support around you can really help. would you be able to tell us a little bit more about whether you have anybody nearby or even who you can contact by phone? personally, i found the doctors i spoke to and my friends to be of most help.

James

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i have never had any friends and the one friend i had doesnt tolerate me anymore. i tried going to church to see if i could find friends there but i struggle to understand the sermons. honestly i am so scared of where i am going to end up that. i didn't want my post in multicultural experiences. i have noone nearby and i phone BB a bit lately. each day is harder and harder and i so look forward to going to bed and staying there for ever. i do love myself and try so hard not to relive the past it's gone now and today is the only day hour by hour. praying i meet someone who will be my partner and friend to talk to and eat and watch telly with. need a secure roof over my head as well. i try mindfullness as well.

[Donte]

Hello Sam,

Nice to hear from you from the Gold Coast. Hope it's warmer there than down here where I am.

Thank you for writing in this forum of Multicultural Experiences. You can talk with us here anytime. We are not counsellors or doctors but we all live with challenges and share our stories and learn from each other/support one another.

Sometimes you can feel so alone and isolated in the midst of the busiest place.

I live in a big city and in a very central location, and like you, I have no partner, and live with my daughter who's a young adult now, and mostly working from home. There are days where I forget that there are thousands of people out there on our streets and cafes, restaurants etc in this busy central spot where I live. There are days where I do not leave the apartment.

People come to this suburb for fun, drinks, socialize and entertainment, beach etc. - it is Melbourne's playground, and yet, there are times when I feel I am in the desert. So I hear you. I understand what you are saying and your longing for companionship and a fulfilling life.

After the death of my partner, my daughter convinced me to get a dog. This has really helped both myself and her and has motivated us to walk, to talk with our neighbors and interact with others who also have pets. It has brought joy and distraction and help us relax. We never feel alone now.

Have you got any pets? Are you able to meet more parents and make new friends through your daughter and her friendships? This way you could attend more social events and get togethers and feel more connected with your community. Have you thought of volunteering perhaps? Or engaging in some hobby that you enjoy?

Hope to hear from you soon.

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its a shame we are not allowed to meet people offiste bcause really that is all depressed people want to do to get better is to meet people likeminded so they can support and help each other get better and form a relationship if same age or interests. people with no depression dont understand how hard it is to battle depression so meeting people with depression is what we need in my opinion anyway. thanks xox

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i have tried to find volunteering roles on the weekends but nothing in this town at all. i have never enjoyed animals i have had a dog that would not stop barking, a cat that wee'd all over my clothes all the time. my daughter is a teenager so she does her own thing and therefore parents don't get involved anymore honestly society has changed so much with internet now social media rubbish which i can not make my daughter see reason of the damage it is doing to her people skills. sorry donte for sounding so negative but life is just that. praying to the lord jesus whom i was never brought up by that he will send me someone to bring the old me back again. donte i am gratefull you even answered. thank you very much and please know i appreciate it. xoxo

[Sophie_M]

Hi sam gc, we can see that meeting someone offline is really a priority for you.  As we mentioned, that is not something that we can help you with here.  One of the reasons our community is so popular is because we provide a safe, secure and anonymous environment for discussion; and allowing the sharing of private contact information would compromise that safety.  There are many other services and websites available elsewhere that are geared towards meeting people in real life.  We are more than happy to discuss with you ways that you can cope emotionally with everything you have going on for you though, and we can see you've received some good support here from our community already.  Please feel free to keep posting.

[future_]

Oh Sophie, please understand the website you talk about are not geared for depressed people who need help from people who understand and are wanting to help themselves and a close friend. It would be a great pick me up to know that my friend in real life also has down days and leans on me. I understand your rules and I am just speaking honestly from my heart. Weekends are so hard to cope and for the last three weeks I haven't even got out of bed to eat because every just says go for a walk, join a club, find a hobby but I have nothing like that because I always looked after my daughter and she doesn't need me anymore because I am so tired and depressed she just hides from me. that makes me sad and i can not no matter how i try she will not come near me her eyes tell me she is scared of depression in herself and doenst know how to help me which honestly she is so young i don't want her to be like this either. oh sophie i am so lost on the weekends it scares me now this early on a friday afternoon. xoxoxo I dont want to hurt anyone just find someone to relate to in human form any way the more i get rejected by you people the more it is making me upset. xoxo

[Sophie_M]

Hi sam gc, we are sorry you are feeling rejected.  We are doing our best to provide you support here within the limits we are able to.  Online discussion we can help with, offline meet ups we unfortunately cannot.  

There are offline support groups for people with depression - if you use the google search term "depression support groups gold coast" a number of options will come up.  Our support service on 1300 22 4636 may have further options you can explore also.

And you can always talk online with our community here if you find that helpful.