Recently bereaved

[Niamhs_mum]

we lost our youngest daughter on 21st february very suddenly - it has thrown our world off its axis and our family is distraught. She was our baby and at 21 yrs old had so many hopes and dreams. Each day is a living hell and the pain is so overwhelming.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Niamhs mum,

We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. We hear how painful this must be, and our thoughts are with you. Grief is something that takes time to work through. While everyone finds their own way to grieve it's important to have the support of friends and family or someone else, and to talk about your loss when you need to. Please know that you can talk about this here whenever you feel it is of benefit to you.

We hope that you and your family have some support during this painful time. You may want to get in touch with Griefline - 1300 845 745. GriefLine provides counselling support services free of charge to individuals who are experiencing loss and grief 6am-midnight AEST.

It's important to take care of yourself through this pain and grief. You might be interested in one of our threads, Three self-care things you did today! for some inspiration on small ways you can practice self care. 

We want to thank you for sharing your story here and reaching out to the community. Hopefully a few of our members will be by over the next few days to share some words of support. 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

There is a point when nothing helps the grief process and as humans we have to allow time and sorrow to get us through. Up till then we can be supportive and offer suggestions.

Some people I've known have a special garden dedicated to their loved one, others a group of photos and others simply pack up the caravan and travel around. For me its poetry that helps me cope, maybe writing things down can help. Distraction, keeping busy can be a good outlet.

Here is one I wrote many years ago that is copied for you today-

to Niamhs mum

PETAL POWER

On your saddest day
You take a daisy flower
You pick petal for each of your woes
And count them by the hour

And when they become a stem
And petals line the floor
Gather them up in your loving arms
Put them in your store

When you enter spirit land
It be snowing like Daisy Dell
Flowers thrown in celebration
By faces you can tell

Then you throw your own
And you will include the stems
Cause that’s what bound these petals together
A meaning to and end

They will pick up the last flower
Of this daisy chain
Reunited and delighted
Connected once again

A simple daisy flower
Messages you can’t ignore
A petal for each of your woes
Are littering the floor

So on your saddest days
You take a daisy flower
Feel free to pick a petal for each of your woes
And count them by the hour

For your heart will glue them all together again
When it’s time to travel above
For your girl a gift in your pocket
The daisy chain of love…..

repost anytime

TonyWK

[Philomena]

Dear Niamhs mum

i am very sorry to hear of your daughters passing. I can understand what you must be feeling.

The pain can never go away as I too have lost a son 7 years old and have never been able to get over his loss though years have flown.

But you need to move on and one way is to cherish memories and times your daughter spent with you . You can speak to your friends and family of those happy times .

Get involved with doing something you may like or with some activities with friends. Talk to a friend you trust share your feelings with them.

stay strong and take care