My Dad just died!

[Doolhof]

I'm here home alone and my sister called to say Dad had collapsed in the city and the ambulance people were assisting him.

I phoned some friends and asked if they could come and be with me, they were busy.

My husband is on his way home, it will take him a couple of hours.

The police called into my sister's home and told her Dad has died.

I phoned my Minister and he said "That will happen. People die." I told him I had to go.

I don't know why I am sharing this here. I don't know what else to do right now.

I don't even know if this post is suitable for the forums.

[Doolhof]

Dear Precious friends of the BB forum,

Thank you so much for reaching out to me, I greatly appreciate your kind words, sympathy and sentiments.

My Dad was always an active member in his community. The last few years he was very much singularly involved in a community creation that helped others. He had been lugging bags of cement, wood, wheelbarrows and goodness knows what else up and down hills just before his death.

That is partly why his death has come as such a shock. He was so well and fit, at least on the outside.

While in Dad's home town, I will be able to walk around and sit in my Dad's creation. Hopefully others will take up his efforts and preserve what he has created. If not, that is okay as well.

Yes Elizabeth, I do believe in life after death. In my mind last night I saw my Dad hugging my children for me and being reunited with his own son, my brother who died so young.

We all have many happy memories to share about Dad.

Once again I thank you all for reaching out to me, it means so very much.

I want to encourage you all to reach out to those around you. We never know how long we have together.

Cheers form Dools

[Elizabeth CP]

reading your comment 'In my mind last night I saw my Dad hugging my children for me and being reunited with his own son, my brother who died so young.
We all have many happy memories to share about Dad.'

brought tears to my eyes. I'm glad you had that lovely thought to hold on to. I remember my brother arranged for a friend to help him pick flowers & greenery from dad's favourite plants in his garden to decorate the coffin. I remember imagining him looking down with his parents & brother & sister pointing out the beautiful plants he'd grown & sharing that part of his life with his loved ones. We never saw his family after we left UK when I was little. Enjoy any piece of comfort you can get at this time. Memories are precious!!!!

[smallwolf]

Hey Dools 😞

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Not sure if/when you will get to see and read this post, but know that I am thinking of you.

Peace to you,

[Just Sara]

My kindest and warmest thoughts go out to you in this time of grief Mrs D; 💌✝

By what you've said, your Dad seemed a strong and productive man filled with community spirit until his untimely death. That's a credit to him and a wonderful legacy for his family and community.

I hope time with your sister can help heal each other's pain. As has been said, sharing memories has its place in the grieving process, so give your inner child a hug as well.

My sincere commiserations;

Sez xo

[quirkywords]

Dools

I found that your image of your dad hugging your children to be so moving.

I hope being close to where your dad lived will help you.

[Doolhof]

Thank you All,

Your words an sentiments mean a lot to me.

It has been a very different Father's Day.

As a family we went to one of Dad's favourite places and spent some time there.

My sister and I went for an early morning walk to the area Dad was working on for the community. In my mind, Dad was there talking about the area and pointing out special bits and pieces.

Not sure what else to write. This is a strange time. It feels like I have been here for a week already.

Cheers all from Dools

[quirkywords]

Dools

when a loved one dies suddenly it means one is in shock. There was not one prepare unlike when a loved one is sick. It must be hard for you but I am glad you have your family offering you support and love. It must be comforting to b e in a place where your dad lived.

[Doolhof]

Hi Quirky and All,

This is the place where I was born and where I grew up. People have offered to help to put on an afternoon tea this week.

People are stopping to say hello and offer condolences if they see any of us up the street or out the front of the house.

We are all so thankful we are not in a state of Australia with strict Covid restrictions. My heart goes out to everyone who is in that situation. We are truly blessed to be together and able to share Dad's memory with others.

I still expect Dad to walk in the door telling us this has just been a joke!

Cheers all from Dools

[Guest_1055]

Gentle hug Mrs D

Shelley

[SapereAude]

I’m so sorry Dools. Wishing you and your family all the best. Don’t be afraid to seek professional support. Everyone deals with their grief in their own special way. I hope you can keep us updated if you feel up to talking. It won’t be easy and will take time but you have our support.