Losing husband

[Suzie_Q]

Last year in February I started chatting to a guy through tinder. He was going through cancer treatment so we held off on meeting but come June, we finally met. He was done with his treatment and in the clear. Little did we know 2 months later we found out the cancer had returned and it was aggressive. Long story short, lots of hospitals trips/scans/appointments and treatment. September before he went in for surgery, he proposed just 3 months after we got together. It was the easiest yes. We planned for a March 2024 wedding but with some more bad news we brought it forward and got married in October. At the start of January 2024 he ended up in the hospital for 2 weeks and then came home, we thought he was on the mend but little did we know when I had to call and ambulance and they took him away on the Monday that he wouldn’t be coming home and passing away not even a week later. We only got to spend 7 months together in total, in that short amount of time I got to become a wife, now I’m a widow at 27 years old. I’m so lost without him, before I met him I was still living at home with my parents but when we found out his cancer was back I moved in to his house with him. Now I’m in his house all alone. It’s coming up 5 months since he has been gone and I’m so lonely and missing that emotional connection. I worry I won’t ever be able to find something like what me and him had ever again. It was special. Majority of my “family” have not been as supportive as I thought they would be. I’ve had to cut some of them off social media. I feel like im the insane one and I’m the one being ridiculous but at the same time it’s so unfair they haven’t just been here for me and I can’t cope with the no support at the moment. I’m angry, sad, frustrated, everything but happy. 

[Croix]

Dear Suzie_Q~

Welcome back to the Forum. I can imagine what a terrible loss it was for you, and the huge contrast between a few weeks of total happiness and then disaster after disaster. I remember losing my partner and I think there is no way you are going insane or being ridiculous.

It is a very empty lonely time and you need all the support you can get -you, like anyone else in that  situation, deserves it. I'm sure you would support another if the situations were reversed. I"m sorry your family is not supporting you. Do you have anyone at all to talk wiht who cares?

I can suggest Griefline 1300 845 745 (AEST) 8am-8pm every day They have trained people to talk wiht , their own forum of people in similar circumstances and a fair amout of information which can help

I remeber you did end an unhappy relationship a few years ago but that does not mean you will not fine someone whom you can be happy wiht -or they might find you. I do think chatting for some time before meeting in person is a good idea, it can help you see a person as they are when you are face to face -and hopefully find you have found a genuine potential mate.

I found someone else after my first partner passed away and have had 25+ years of being secure and in love.

You know you are welcome here anytime

Croix