Hi Kat_Kai1067
I would like to offer you a virtual hug and to let you know we are here for you in this time of your grief and pain.
People say that "time heals all wounds", I have not found that to be true, I think in time we learn to live with the wound but it is always there. Can I say that not a day will go past that you will not think of your grandpa, but as time does move forward the thoughts will become ones you cherish and may make you even smile as you remember him with love and remember all the great times you had together...however this does take time..how long..I have no idea as there are no rules to grief and how to do it.
It is totally fine to cry and to absolutely wail...to let the sadness out and to make room for the happier times to shine through.
I don't think you have to "get over it", as you never will...you loved him dearly and he will always have a very special place in your heart, so "getting over it" is just not possible, and that is totally fine..it is how we manage these feelings and try to really embrace the good times and honour his memory.
Your Grandpa would not want for you to be so sad when you remember him, he too would want the good times to take first place, for you to remember the special times that you had and to remember him and smile..maybe even laugh...but this does take time and as I said, there are not rules on the amount of time you need.
There are some wonderful people at Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800, I am not sure of your age but if your are under 25 they are perfect for supporting you. They also have a web based chat if you feel more comfortable in doing that:
https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling
I hope to chat some more to you and to listen as you share some of the things that you loved about your Grandpa, if you like.
Hugs to you
Sarah xx
