Grief and loss with possession, belonging, memories. Stuff.

[Guest_52608807]

I can't count the amount of times lately I have cried myself to sleep, an exhausted blubbering mess of confusion and so many emotions i dont know to process yet. I need to know I am not alone in this experience. I recently through my own actions put trust with someone who I obviously shouldn't and ultimately it led to them throwing out every item I owned except the 1 suit case of clothing I had with me .. this triggers the most regularly when I'm talking with anyone about anything as reflex I want to respond with I am also have this item .. no I don't. How do I start to heal and move on when everything hurts so deep and personal..

[melodica]

Hello,I am glad you have reached out here on the forums. While my situation is different, it does involve grief and I'm in that phase myself. It is absolutely agonizing and can make you feel so alone.For me, the only thing getting me through right now is journalling and my therapist. They are the safe places where I can process things. There's also Beyond Blue and Lifeline if you need more support.I hope this message goes a small way toward letting you know you are not alone, and feel free to reach out if you want to chat.

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Guest,

A very warm and caring welcome to the forums..

I am deeply sorry that has happened to you and I can understand your hurt and grieving of you loss…my husband many times ripped up my clothing, tore all my books up and smashed my ornaments which I remember how devastated I felt….to try to stop him would mean physical repercussions…so I would just sit there and watch him in silent tears..because the more I got upset the more things he would find to destroy…even destroying photos of our children that to me were precious and will never be able to be replaced….for him it was a way of hurting me…showing his power over me…

He has since passed, so anything I buy is now safe….I started buying small things that I likes and would treasure…which gives me pleasure in a small way…but even that can still trigger memories of what I had lost…to me they were/are still not replaceable…I think in a way I don’t want to replace them…I want different from before, things that give me pleasure to look at, read or wear…

Did this person deliberately throw out all your items?..

You’re not alone dear Guest, it’s hard to accept that these things are gone forever, I cried many tears about them…grieved many times over it…. it’s hard to believe, but time does heal the hurt of loosing things but also our heart keeps the good memories of things that are no longer visual…

Talk here when you feel up to it, we are here to help support you as best we can…

My kindest thoughts with care…

Grandy..