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i am always on the edge with anxiety i think people are against me all the time and i shut my self off from the world at
times i am the only child i am living with 2 aging parents i am 45,and i love them so much i will miss them and i worry about what my life will be without them and i worry about having to speak at the the service which people keep saying i have to do
which twists my thinking as i know it would be much for me to stand up and do i am to shy and emotional person to speak on the day i keep thinking people with judge me and think i am weak if i dont speak etc i keep annoying friends about it all the time and alway ringing people for their specialist advice and i cant seem to shake this problem
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hi jess i do have counsin but we dont have much to do with them,my parents havent planned anything i have spoken to them about things they say leave all the speaking to the celebrant thats what they are there for,my family is non religious
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Hi smith, well that is true, you can leave all the speaking to the celebrant if you wish. Some people find it tough to speak in public at any time let alone when they are grieving. What will happen in that circumstance is that the celebrant will sit down with you and have a chat about the person who has passed and ask you some questions about their life so they can write the eulogy. If you wish you can write something yourself to be read out.
I think because this is such a source of anxiety for you that it would be worth talking to your parents again and maybe doing a bit of research on the internet about 'funeral planning'. If you can even reduce things down to having some numbers that you know to call when the time comes, that will probably help a lot.
What about friends, both family friends of your parents and of your own that will be able to support you?
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Hey Smith
It is always a concern thinking about parents dieing and because you have brought it up for yourself perhaps it may be a good time to start making friends so it will be easier for when it happens. Joining a social group is always a good thing.
You do not have to say anything at the funeral if you are not comfortable with that at all the funeral homes will have that covered for you if you like.they will discuss it with you at the time.
Now thank heavens you do not know when this is actually going to happen or who is going to go first none of us know this fact at all. My mother died of cancer and my dad died 18 mths later I come from a huge family but that did not make it any better for losing them the way we did. So I understand why you are fretting but I hope you can prepare something now for yourself with friends so it will help when you need it.
Did you know a person in a large family can be lonely.
all the best
Giggles
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Mum and dad don't have friends really I have a few friends about 5 so it most likely be low key