Would really appreciate peoples thoughts on a housing situation !

[randomxx]

Hi to all.

lt's an unbelievable time in life to find myself stuck in this position, just don't know how to look at it, or what to do about with it, if l can anything at all. 

Problem is, at almost 60, yeah l've mixed up details in other threads just a bit concerned some l know may also be here and haven't wanted any connection here that l might know, butttt, yep.

Thing is l didn't get anything out of my last house, the people l went into the property with as it was a big place, went broke.

Well , sort of lucky although maybe a curse , not sure anymore but l do still have a 1ac country property, 18yrs now, from back when l was married.

l can't work anymore for mh reasons but if l took care l can survive until l can get the pension- living at the 1ac place- it only has a small over nighter atm but l could extend and it'd come up quite nice .

Problem is, it's in a ting town, 30mins to the main town which is a really nice place and there's also a couple of tiny ones in between before that main buttttt, out where this place is, is tiny and out on it's own .

l always planned selling it about now but problems are now that for 1, even if it did sell, it's just a cheap little country block it'd only be a good deposit on something closer in- but circumstances now that'd mean a new mortgage and l'd have to keep working too, don't think l could stomach either of those especially the stress in trying to make it happen.

2nd thing highly possible it doesn't even sell anyway.

l know l'm lucky to at least have it and all , with the housing crisis and so many in worser positions , l just never dreamed l'd be living on it though and honestly, just don't know but it looks like l might be forced to.

l grew up in the city and have lived in some of the nicest places in the country but to have to settle on this place out there now- look the property itself is a really cute block and in a nice little back street- if l could put it on a truck to somewhere else it'd be really nice - but this town.

rx

[randomxx]

Well, the sales fallen through.

Can not bloody believe it but on the other side of the coin l've been expecting it since the start, just a feel it wouldn't go through.

God almighty didn't need this though on top of the emotional roller coaster and stress of the last 6mths and now this last few wks over in the new area had in mind. Thinking all that through to and been out to one block 3-4times, about all that too and everything involved and the even could l ,,should l - all of it.

And now this.

Plus l'd really made up my mind, l didn't wanna stay at my place, after 5mth of it all and all the what if's if l don't.

Once you give into that feeling after all the trying and mental total bran wash of trying to like it make it work, the depression, God, ldk. The thought of going back to all that or maybe having to, just makes me feel sick.

lt was really really pushing it to even get into the frame of mind and find the mojo to come over here and hopefully start over and of just what l could manage mentally. l managed to get my mind around it all, only just, and mojo , only very just , but now this. 

Yet l can't go back, not to live anyway, not after all this, l just don't wanna be there. But then there's all the what ifs, bloody hell.

l suppose though it'll just have to go back on the market and to square one again. Considering , what else could l do. 

rx

[Eagle Ray]

Hi rx,

I'm so sorry to hear about the sale falling through. I totally get that would leave you feeling awful and really disappointed.

I guess the one positive out of it is that you now know so clearly you do want to sell, because of how you felt when it was going ahead. Don't give up hope on selling it. It's just a frustrating waiting game. I know it's going to be the same with my place. It's got asbestos right through which I know will put off a lot of potential buyers and I fully suspect I'll have sales that fall through as well, and that I'll have to remain flexible and on my toes, not quite knowing when I'll be able to move.

I think being in limbo is the hardest thing and that is what has been so difficult for you. But knowing you want to move from there and start over somewhere else means you at least can have a plan and you are clearer now. You can keep looking for other places in terms of both towns and properties. It gives you plenty of time to suss things out. You don't have to rush into something else, and it might be best to wait for both the sale and settlement to go through on your current property so you know exactly what money you have going forward looking for a new place.

Stay strong rx and trust your heart and what you know you most want to do. I don't know if you are into quotes, but my psychologist shared one with me a little while back which is:

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you truly love. It will not lead you astray. - Rumi

Take care and hugs,

er

[randomxx]

Hiya er , and thx v mush for the support and thoughts. Like you don't have enough to worry about.

Yep, they fall through, tis the way t goes hey, happens all the time. This one, he asked if he could put one of his trucks on before settlement well that was fine except, he discovered he couldn't get his trucks into the place. It's a really narrow street and driveway sooo, that was that. Butttt, what can we do l suppose eh, the man needs to get his trucks into it.

Quotes wellll, sorta but youknow, they can write one about anything, you or l could write 100 of them so yaknow, in that way l don't take much notice usually. But yeah what his saying is an obvious isn't it that is the way we and things are suppose to work ofc , all easy to say though isn't it when we turn around at these ages and find ourselves in our situations isn't it.

l doubt he was dealing with everything we are or the Australian housing market in 2026 when he wrote it right.

Funny, brother said other day why don't you just go for another holiday back up the Murray until the place resells ha ha, bloody tempting. Tbh though l don't really feel like it now.

But actually Tony, right here, Gday Tone , said awhile back , before all this, you can just go over to the new area and start life there while your waiting. l like that idea at this stage now, maybe even find some temp accommodation .

Any ideas in these mad mad times of some sort of cheaper accommodation ER ?

Don't wanna go setting up a unit or something but maybe something else walk in walk out type thing. 

Actually Tony stayed in caravan parks between houses spose that's an option too. 

l'm sorry about your property worries though er but yaknow what. The way things are atm in this country l reckon a unit would sell atm, without a bloody roof tbh. And really your not a bad distance from Perth and your coastal plus it'd be heaps cheaper than anything up there so try not to worry about any of the other stuff atm. lt's still got big things going for it wouldn't be at all surprised if it went tbh. So many turning to units to now as a way in the door in these times sooooo, try not to worry.

Thx again er .

rx

[Eagle Ray]

Hi rx,

I think staying in the places you think you want to trial as places to live is a good idea. If you can stay in a caravan park for a while in such a place, that would make sense. You can get to know the people and the surrounds and see how you feel. There might be free camps you can stay in for a bit too, but if you check with the caravan parks you can see if there are ones that might let you be there a while and at least you've got camp kitchens and ablution blocks there if you want them.

The other main thing you can do his housesitting, which usually involves pet sitting, so depends how you feel about caring for pets. There are places like Mind a Home and Aussie Housesitters. Some of them are longer term. I think you pay a single yearly fee to be on those sites and then you can see what's available and what may match up to your needs. But I think nearly all of them involve pets and some may involve some garden maintenance etc if there longer term. You may be able to find one in an area you want to check out and the benefit is it is free accommodation.

Those are my main thoughts and ideas. I can only see how I go with my place. The demand is super high here and the housing stock is super low, so it may well not be so difficult. I'm literally almost priced out of WA now unless I move to a remote inland town, so I'm definitely thinking about Melbourne again where the median housing price is actually lower than Perth. Much to my surprise, I've realised I'm someone who is happier in the city. I never thought that would be the case, but that's exactly what's happened.

Anyway, take care and all the best working things out,

er

[randomxx]

Yeah have been doing that actually. Spent time over central Vic we'll call it, also up in one of the Murray towns l really liked and atm over in another area much closer to everything and my daughter.

Both those were really nice but a bit far but l'm quite liking this area tbh so far it's also bloody dear too though. Been checking what few l could find there's only one in those l like but it's more than l wanna spend though so we'll think about it.

Going over to look at some others in another area over from here later in wk and l might set up somewhere there l think while l see if my place sells and check those out and the area while at it. Don't think l'd like the house sitting thx all the same but l'd prefer something more than a van for a bit but we see.

Free camps are great while your just holidaying but don't have the comforts of a caravan park , great bathrooms and washing and power, lounges and other goodies so if l can't get better l'll prob just settle for that and there is a beauty over in that area to so see how goes.

Funny you mention Melb, part of it are crashing atm especially units and now with the latest budget that'll get worse you might snare a bargain later on so could be an option for sure.

l've had to except similar to you maybe not the city couldn;t afford it but def wanna be back in a decent area and town with things going on- and closer to my d.

Take care hey and hugs for you my friend too.

rx

[randomxx]

Actually er , when your in the mood no hurry for sure as it sounds like it's gonna get worse but try YouTube Melbs apartment /unit crisis or something like that.

There's heaps of stuff on what's happening in all that.

rx

[randomxx]

Feels that mad to be where l'm at in life, l can't believe it when l allow myself to admit it. lt feels embarrassing , l feel as if l've just made a complete stuff up of life.

Trouble is, l know where l'd be and what l'd be doing right now , except that's being dictated to me instead by the insane property prices and lack of choice going on in this country now.

l'd be happy to stay right where l am but you know what, there is the choice of 1- as in one, property , one- that l could afford and that l could make a go of.

But 1 , l need to sell the cabin but 2, even at that , this one, is still a bit about my range well you would've just put in a filthy offer 10yrs back and he'd jump at it ha, forget that now. This place would've been 50k cheaper only just a few yrs ago but now he won't budge even a k.

This particular area you'd had dozens to choose from only 5yrs ago and some of the cheapest around anywhere. They're asking 3 times now what they were asking just 5yrs ago and in my range now, there is a whole - one, that's it,  and even that is a bit above what l can go and he won't budge.

You could've picked up your choice round here only 5yrs ago and at half or even less of what they're asking now and you'd have had 20 to choose from.

Hence needing 3 or 4 areas and compromises . l should be on the receiving end in life now , don't l know it , but yet instead it's like your at the mercy of it.

Everyone else has been in their place yrs it's all paid for long ago and they've had decades of stability and their marriages and families and whathaveyou, they;re sittin pretty.

l've been so gun ho through life, you wouldn't believe. Yeah l always wanted different and l've lived different that is for sure and done all my dreams those others are growing old now but still hoping for even one of them. But 20yrs ago l was also desperate for stability too then came a divorce later on , then came the next house which would've set me up for life gone all wrong bc of the people l went into it with, as it was a big property, l didn't want nor could afford it all.

Ex and l had 3properties before the d, we could've stopped work all together 10yrs ago , but we split at the worst possible time property wise as that was all in the still building up , setting up, renovations, everything half finished, not even that far actually at that time and there was no mad property market things like that were still half the price of anything else ha nowwww, we'd still had come out of them with 300% even as was. Story of my life it seems.

l dunno, much of life to though my own fault too, no doubt about it. While people were envying from afar and their stable secure lives and homes, l end up still in this position. 

rx

[randomxx]

And now there's reports all over YT of property crashing well, if it does it's 20yrs past insanity and over due.

[Eagle Ray]

Hi rx,

Thanks for info re: Melbourne. I just watched a video on it and it’s an interesting situation, bucking trends in the rest of the country and affecting apartments in specific areas.

I know Geelong is a bit more affordable than Melbourne and just wondered about whether that would suit you but it is a regional city and I don’t know if it would be what you’re after.

I hear you about how you feel about where you are in life, but don’t be hard on yourself because I think all any of us can do in life is make the best decisions we can at the time. I feel similar to you and regret past decisions that might have made things different now. But what you have going and maybe me too is we do think independently and maybe that is also our key to finding our way forward. It may be something unconventional.

I can’t write much more as really tired. I’ve also made a decision to leave the forums here. So just want to wish you all the best going forward rx and take great care of you. Big hugs xx

[randomxx]

Hiya er and thx for the thoughts.

Geelong yeah, she's a big busy place these days, stretches far and v wide and still going. There's been a huge influx last 5-10 yrs bc it was a lot cheaper than melb. A lot of people train down to melb work and back these days.  

And thx v much for your words too but hey , l wanna say same to you, you don't feel bad about where your at eh and you had the guts to try something else and that's a v big thing . You've got your place there and even if you do move on you wanted to try it and you have , something to be really proud of in my book.

l wish you all the v best to though hey and l've really appreciated out little chats going on round here but at the same time l know what you mean and you do whatever's best for you ok.

lt can be weird can't it trying to talk through all our stuff, l know. They tell us that's what we need to do but sometimes  l wonder myself too and l def' feel better just laying low on it all instead at times myself too, l'm probably well over due for some of that too.

You take car of yourself and big hugs.

rx