Working on my loneliness

Rusty

Although things seem to be getting better I’m still trying to shrug of feelings of extreme loneliness and being able to make decent connections with people.

It gets quite depressing at times and sometimes I wonder what I’m doing wrong. Not that I have thoughts of suicide I do wonder if it’s worth putting the effort in.

Kali_Rose

Let me first say that you are doing NOTHING wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. A lot of factors go into loneliness and it is not a permanent state. I don't know much about your situation, but finding people with like minded interests or values can help a lot. Whether its a foodie meetup, boardgames, sport activity - find people who share the same likes as you to help make easier connections.

As an adult, it takes extra effort too to make friends and build community as we are not regularly seeing the same group of people like we do in school. I know it can feel like a lot, but maybe check out any local events, or Facebook events or meetups! I know that helps me a lot when I feel lonely. You've got this!

Rusty

Hi Guest

Thanks for the reply, I think why I’m feeling like I’m doing something wrong probably comes from the fact that I have been doing a lot of the things you have suggested but feel like I just haven’t been able to connect. I think it doesn’t help when I’m more on the introverted side. It’s just at the moment I’m feeling like I’m going around in circles and I’m not getting anywhere and it is wearing me down emotionally. I just hope that something good happens soon.

Psychdiaries2

Hi Rusty,

I agree with the previous reply that it takes more effort as an adult to make connections with people and it can be harder. I see you are putting in a lot of effort which on one hand is great, but also emotionally taxing. Try and slow down a bit and go at your own pace. Along with meetups, I was going to suggest connecting with animals like perhaps visiting a farm or an animal shelter for some companionship. Lastly, there's nothing wrong with being introverted, it's not something to overcome. if you are struggling with social skills though, maybe you would like to practice in the mirror.

Hope this makes you feel a bit better. You're always welcome here on the forums 🤗

Kind regards,

PsychDiaries

Rusty

Hi Psychdiaries2

Appreciate the reply. It is definitely emotionally taxing which I feel makes it harder to keep going.
I’m not sure if I can really slow down or know how to go at my own pace. I don’t really know how to be kind to myself, it’s things like this where I’d love to have connection and friendship to talk it through, I just don’t feel like I can keep doing this on my own. On a good note, I have an appointment with my counsellor in a few days so I can work through some things.

Thanks

Mark07a

Im having a similar experience, tried various meetups, toastmasters, volunteering

Im in sydney.