work

[mr magoo]

• why can’t we just go to work do our work and go home Why do some managers insist on singling someone out to destroy their self respect self esteem and possibly even making them feel so worthless that living with the harassment is just too much where is the accountability for being pushed and prodded into doing or saying something stupid now we have to get help for ourselves because of others abusive behaviour Where is the justice,accountability mental health help in my industry is lip service dotting the eyes and crossing the tees meanwhile many good people with great potential are being subjected to what basically amounts to mental torture pretty much all questions and no answers sorry but myself and my family are suffering because of one person’s need to make this happen and has the power to stop it 

[Sophie_M]

Hi Mr Magoo,

Thank you for sharing what you’re going through. It sounds like you’ve been dealing with some really painful and unfair experiences at work. Feeling singled out, disrespected, or harassed can take such a toll on your mental health, and it’s completely understandable that you’re feeling so worn down and angry about the lack of accountability.

No one deserves to be treated that way, especially in a place where you should be able to just do your job and feel safe. You’re right, words like “mental health support” can sometimes feel like lip service when the real issue is systemic mistreatment. The fact that you’re reaching out and putting this into words shows strength and self-awareness.

If you haven’t already, it might help to talk through what’s been happening with someone outside of the workplace, maybe your GP, a counsellor, or even a service like Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) or Lifeline (13 11 14). They can help you process what’s happening and find some steps toward support and boundaries.

You don’t have to face this alone, and it’s okay to seek help when something this unfair is affecting both you and your family.

Take care of yourself,
Sophie M

[mr magoo]

Thanks Sophie I have taken a week off and seen doctor,am on meds and seeing him again in a weeks time to discuss medication and counseling I will be back at work tomorrow and hopefully have gained enough strength this week to get through next week I don’t understand why some people have the need to try to destroy others I don’t think I want to the whole concept is foreign to me 

[sbella02]

Mr Magoo, 

Thank you so much for posting here, welcome to the forums. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this, navigating work difficulties can be tough given that we're often spending a long time there.

I'm going to extent Sophie M's words here and ask whether or not you've considered approaching a Union or Fair Work organisation? These can often be good places to turn to, above and beyond HR, that can offer specific advice and support based on the kind of industry you are in. 

Please feel free to keep chatting with us more if you'd like.

All the best, SB

[mr magoo]

thank you sbella02 we are only a small company so HR consists of the big boss and the foreman who hates my guts Maybe the union and the fair trade might be an option if i was sacked or leaving which may be the case as now im not even getting a reply when i message asking what site we are working on my brother said stuff them you have been there 11 years and you still don’t get sick pay or holiday pay but i still feel a sense of loyalty to the big boss for sticking with me all this time even when the foreman is sinking the boot in every chance he gets Thank you for your help i really appreciate it 

[smallwolf]

Hello and welcome to the forums.

I think you’ve said what so many people feel but are afraid to say. What would happen when we become assertive? I for one would tend to think the worst case scenario.

No one should have to face that kind of treatment at work or have their confidence torn down. I don't know what happened in your situation, but it is saddening \that you and your family are going through this.

Listening...

[mr magoo]

thanks smallwolf i am getting help to try stop myself from doing something stupid even though alot of the problem i feel has come from someone else regardless i will try to help myself as much as i can i can’t stop others from doing things to me but i can help myself to cope thanks for your help 

[mr magoo]

and don’t forget im not perfect either there’s always two sides but the person in the position of power has a big advantage 

[Halecia]

hey 

Im so sorry your going through this, this had happened to me in my 20’s .. ALOT. This resonates with me. 

I use to get pulled aside in hospitality when I was working just to make ends meet to be asked to monitor a certain staff member and report back. When I said no I was bullied into resigning. This was $18 an hour job. 15 years ago. 

same happened in my Disability position. And then I was so upset I said something. And I was told to go home and, eventually sacked. 

I don’t think Managers or employees in position of authority realise how much We need this income. This is my livelihood - to pay the bills. It’s not Play money. 

[mr magoo]

agree i’m just trying to help myself get through this rough patch it’s unfortunate that we must endure this treatment but i believe i’ve got the strength today to get through today and that’s all i deal with where as before i was worried about tomorrow today and i think it made it worse