dear Tinabeck, hello and welcome to the BB site.
The more people tell us to 'be positive', 'get over it' or worse still 'grow up' the more annoyed we become, because
they are only being insenstive, unknowledgable and uncaring and that's exactly what we never want to hear.
Depression is a curse, it's stays with us, and we can't really ever get rid of it, and it can come again and again
unfortunately we don't have an option, but what we can do is know that it's there, so we realise that whatever
we have in life is the best we can do under the circumstances.
I still have it and I do have relapses, but I have to realise this, and once I know that there will be ups and downs
all through the rest of my life I accept this, because if I don't understand and accept this then I will be struggling
all the time.
It's a disease that we have had or still suffering from and why we were the chosen ones, well who knows.
I live by myself with my puppie as my only company, and yes there are many days when I wish I had someone to
talk to but then there are days when I'm happy just to be by myself, but I have 2 boys, one who is married and the other
isn't, but I love talking to my 2 little grand daughters aged 4 and 2 this year even if it's only once a week.
My life has changed, it has too, just like yours has, and I've been divorced for 13 years, and whether or not I
would have been happier staying in a marriage I don't think that I would have.
I'm 61 years old and the number of people who help me except for my sons, twin are miminal, after all the work
and help I have given them over the years is zero, but I can't and probably don't want this change. Geoff. x
