Wanting to feel less alone in this desperate darkness

[Kanetica]

Hi, sèeking some advice on how to connect and grab a hand in the chaos. I have friends who are really close; family, but things have turned messy tonight, and im not sure how best to ask for a friend.

[MsPurple]

HI Kanetica.

I am not too sure what you fully mean. It sounds like you are wanting to open up to friends. Maybe give them a call. Or ask them to come to go to coffee to hang out and chat.

If you want to talk to someone now you can always call Lifeline on 131114 or beyond blue 1300224636. They are really good to talk to if you need to chat to someone now

[Croix]

Dear Kanetica~

Like MsPurple I'm glad you here and would like to help. We are a friendly and gentle place with all sorts of experiences, I'd expect some people might be rather like you.

Would you like to say a little more about the problems you face? They must realy be preying on your mind, your tone and the fact you have come here point to that.

It's hard to guess, so like Ms Purple I'll mention that if you are so down talking your life, or self harm is in your thoughts then using a crisis line is a good way of feeling less alone, and that there are ways out you have not really examined (depression acts like blinkers at times).

I'd suggest the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467), mainly because they are professionals and you can talk to the same person more than once. Lifeline is good as is our own 24/7 help line.

If that's on the wrong track and it is something else - that's ok, we would like to listen

Croix

[geoff]

Good Morning Kanetica, and thanks for posting your comment.

It's not easy to ask someone for help because you are never sure of what type of reaction you will get, that also defined me when I first started, I hesitated, but the response I received was wonderful, I was talking to other people who had also been through similar circumstances, that made my own situation comfortable.

You don't have to necessarily tell them straight out what your problem is first of, but you can say something general and then let the conversation develop, that's unless the problem is so annoying, then you tell them.

I hope you feel as though you can trust the people here on the forums because we would love to hear back from you.

Geoff.

[Kanetica]

Thankyou all so much for your replies and kind words.

I am seriously grateful to receive so much support this morning.

I mean about opening up to friends/family. Things have been so isolating and difficult. I just dont want to worry or freak everyone out with asking for help.

Things spiraled quickly for me yesterday when my partner and i argued and i realised there was noone else. I was lost in the hopelessness.

I am ok. And with thanks for your words of encouragement i will try again connecting to other people.

[geoff]

Hi Kanetica, thanks for replying back to us, and to be lost in this land of being hopeless is a terrible place to be, and to be ok can only be a temporary time for some of us, so please never worry about coming back to us.

Yes there will be when all we want to do is talk with someone.

Take care.

Geoff.