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Trying to fight depression by myself

tigh
Community Member

Hey guys

I'm new to this. I have had depression and anxiety for a couple years now .

I have been fighting it by myself thinking i can fight it myself but lately it has hit me so hard and I don't no what steps to take .

I have everything I need in life a wonderful partner of 6 years a good lifestyle .But that all goes out the window my partner doesn't understand what I'm going through .And I'm making it really hard on her . Basically I need to start taking steps to get better before I loose everything ?

I did go to a G.P once but she told me I don't have anything wrong with myself so i never bothered again .

Any advise would be great I just need a bit of a kick to get me going .

Thankyou

2 Replies 2

Lost_Girl
Community Member

Hi Tigh,

Welcome to the forums. Well done for taking a first step at getting some help and for knowing in yourself that there's a problem. That takes a lot of courage and compassion for your partner too. Great stuff.

It sounds to me that you were unfortunate in the GP that you saw. I think seeing a GP is a really good start to managing how you are feeling. I could not have managed without mine. Can I suggest you try again with a new one? Perhaps writing down some of what you are feeling before you go might help you explain it to them.

Have you had a read through the information on depression and anxiety on this site? If not, that's a good place to start too. There is even a checklist on there to help you gauge how you are right now.

You can also continue to read and post here in the forums. If you give some more specific details of what's going on, people with experience in those areas may be able to help by sharing their experiences.

I hope this helps. Let us know how you get on.

Kind thoughts,

Carol

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hello Tigh, there is always a great misconception that people think that they will overcome their depression, what ever type they have, what you have, by themselves, but we can't do this because there are so many issues that we know but so many more that either we don't know or too scared to face and these are what we need to face, to get help for and to understand that there is light at the end of the tunnel, even though now you won't feel this way.
A reason why your partner doesn't know what you are going through is because you don't either, so you feel as though you're in a box of scrabble all mixed up, so the first step here is to know what type of depression you have, and your doctor will be able to tell you this, then you will know what you are trying to overcome, because it's better to have knowledge rather than no idea.
Once you have accepted your diagnosis then that's just the beginning and even though it may frighten you, we need somewhere to start, and the GP you saw before I would avoid, there are many compassionate GP's and psychologists out there wanting to help you, and this also includes talking with us if you find it to be appropriate, I hope so.
Can I get you to click onto 'Get Support' and scroll down to 'information resources' and order the the free BB booklet.
Hope to hear back from you. Geoff.