This awful feeling.

[manoody92]

Hi all.

Ive suffered depression for many many years. Lately it has reared its ugly head again due to some marriage issues I’m having. I’ve got that sensation again where I am detached from the world. Like I am walking around in a dream and feel like there’s a screen between me and everyone else... I know there’s a word for this feeling. I believe it’s called derealisation. I was just curious as to how many of you suffer from the same thing and when does is tend to dissipate? Thank you.

[baet123]

Hi Manoody 🙂

Thanks for sharing your situation with us. Sorry to hear that you have suffered from depression for many years and that due to some personal issues your having it is having a greater impact on your life. That sucks! Depression sucks!

What your feeling and experiencing and that sense of you being detached from everyone and everything else is completely normal and knowing many people who live with and who have dealt with depression, this is an extremely common phenomenon which many share.

When does it tend to dissipate? I guess this is hard to answer because it varies on a case by case basis. I guess the best approach would be to solve the underlying problems that are making you feel this sense of detachment which in your case might be your marriage issues. I know you probably aren't comfortable going into too much personal detail but have you and the person your married to talked about the issues you are having? Sitting down and talking to each other and seeing how the situation can be improved might help? I also think that marriage counselling/couples counselling may be of use to you also.

Tackling the issue head on may be painful and uncomfortable but might assist your relationship situation and have positive effects for your mental health well-being and quality of life.

Hope this helped.

Baet123

[blondguy]

Hello Manoody

Im sorry for the pain you have been going through with your marriage. Thankyou so much for posting with us.I understand what you have been going through especially after my relationship issues......and yes it hurts!

The sense of detachment you mentioned is common when we have a tired (overloaded) mind.

To answer you question...yes it does dissipate as long as we dont have so much on our plate as we used to as this can cause repeated cycles of the feelings of detachment

Manoody...The forums are a SAFE and non judgemental place for you to post. You well being and privacy is paramount to the Beyond Blue forums

You mentioned that you have suffered from depression for many years....(like myself) May I ask if you have a GP/Counselor that you have been talking too? The reason I ask is only so we can support you more effectively

you are not alone in any way. I really hope you can post back with any questions/comments when you can

my kind thoughts

Paul

[Fallen_apart]

I know that sensation well but I never knew there was a word for it.

Thank you for posting. I learn a lot from other peoples experiences and the only thing I can add from mine is as baet said couples counselling can be very helpful but you must do the homework.

[manoody92]

Hi baet123,

Thank you for your reply.

I have had this feeling before, but that was almost 10 years ago. It seems a lot worse this time.

I am currently seeing a counsellor with my husband to sort out our problems which I have posted about in the relationship forums. We also have a 2 year old so it’s been very difficult trying to mother and look and myself and our marriage while I am feeling this way.

[manoody92]

Hi Paul,

Thanks so much for your reply.

Yes, I am lucky enough to have an excellent Doctor who is very helpful and who knows me quite well after seeing her for many years.

I am currently in the process of trialing a new anti depressant which doesn’t help the way I’m feeling.

I have posted all about the issues I’ve been having in the relationship forum if you were interested in reading my story there?

[manoody92]

No worries, I’m glad I could help.

A psychiatrist told me about it when I was younger and I’ve never forgotten what she called it. Such a horrendous feeling!