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[Liz22063]

I’m current at uni and I just feel like everyone is so much far ahead than me and I just don’t think I have a purpose anymore I’m always ghe joke and always tend to fall behind I don’t know how to make it stop. I just want to leave everything and be by myself nothing makes me happy anymore and coming home is like a chore

[Sophie_M]

Hey Liz, welcome to the Beyond blue forums.

Thank you for sharing your story with us and letting us in on your thoughts and feelings. We can hear that you feel as though others have achieved more than you at a similar age. Please know many people experience these feelings and thoughts, however, it is usually not so easy to make comparisons to others. We can never know what resources or experiences have allowed others to accomplish what they have. The most important thing is that you continue to improve on yourself, in whatever way that may be. To be the better version of you!

We're sorry to hear you feel as though you are always the joke. We acknowledge this must be very upsetting. Can we ask, do you have any mental health support? If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.They will give you support and point you in the right direction for help in your area.

You are not alone here, and we hope that you keep us updated on how you're going whenever you feel ready.
 

[smallwolf]

Hi and welcome.

for my 2c worth...

if I read between the lines, it sounds like you feel humiliated/embarrassed about being the joke of others. While this is something I cannot remember happening when I was at Uni, those feelings are what I felt when I was at high school.

my daughter recently started and stopped Uni this year. She was feeling overwhelmed by everything and felt she was falling behind. If she wants to she can go back another year when she feels she is ready. In the mean time will work and find other studies to do?

You could also contact student support services at your Uni and talk to one of the counsellors there for advice on your options.

A lecturer said to me 2 weeks ago... P's make degrees.

Finally, is your lost purpose related to the difficulty or what other students are saying? And in posting here shows courage, that I hope will also get you though this period. (On, and 2 years ago, I did no study because of mental health issues, another possibility?)

[Liz22063]

Thank you so much for your reply. I’m thinking of going to one of the counsellors or a therapist to help me get back on track. But I’m also testing this forums out too. The lost purpose was about now that I’m falling behind and don’t feel as ahead of everyone because there all going to do so well but what about myself? You know I feel as if I’ll always be in this state

[smallwolf]

Not sure what year you are in etc....

It depends on what you want to do with your degree. Further study? Or just to get a job? Or for education value?

When I first did my computing degree there were certain subjects everyone did in the first year. Just getting through the subjects you didn't like was part of learning.

Learning styles make a difference also. So does the way a person lectures.

These things can impact on how you see yourself and the course?

With the right guidance and support I am sure you will make it with whatever decisions you make. And remind yourself why you are doing the course.