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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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George_K CFS Question
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Hi Everyone I know this is the wrong forum to ask this but I was hoping some kind soul might be able to point me in the right direction. Are there any Australian forums that deal with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS?). I've seen there are a few threads... View more

Hi Everyone I know this is the wrong forum to ask this but I was hoping some kind soul might be able to point me in the right direction. Are there any Australian forums that deal with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS?). I've seen there are a few threads here on Beyond Blue about it, but they're mostly older threads, and dealing with crossover. While I am dealing with some degree of depression\anxiety\stress\whatever, it's the CFS itself that's the primary problem and I'm curious if there are any support options. My GP is good, but after battling CFS for going on a decade, Centrelink basically saying work or prove disability (how does one prove CFS and degree of incapcitation?), and me feeling quite physically and mentally lethargic at present, I thought I ought to look around for options. Hope this is all coherent. Any and all suggestions or advice greatly appreciated.

gloria10 Having a tough time
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Hi, It has been a while since I've been on Beyond Blue. I felt for a while I was managing things okay, but depression has recently returned. I've been dealing with a bit as I've recently lost my dad, so I feel I've needed to be extra support for mum.... View more

Hi, It has been a while since I've been on Beyond Blue. I felt for a while I was managing things okay, but depression has recently returned. I've been dealing with a bit as I've recently lost my dad, so I feel I've needed to be extra support for mum. She is doing better now so I think it's an emotional release and I can finally take care of myself. It got to the better of me last week after an interview when they criticized my work history as I've had a lot of short contracts (some of that due to Anxiety and Depression affecting my work). I have improved with my last contract and was able to last for the whole length, which I was happy with, but after the interview, I felt completely knocked down and like it was all for nothing. I was just so surprised that it hit me so hard, I don't normally let people get to me like that. I'm just wondering if anyone has dealt with this sort of thing before and how did you bounce back? I'm just finding it hard to get back into job hunting now. Gloria10

Tired_Mumma Depression during illness
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Hi all, I’m new here and want to share what I’m experiencing in the hope someone out there can offer advice. Ive suffered depression previously & know enough to realise it is creeping back to haunt me at present. Ive recently been diagnosed with chro... View more

Hi all, I’m new here and want to share what I’m experiencing in the hope someone out there can offer advice. Ive suffered depression previously & know enough to realise it is creeping back to haunt me at present. Ive recently been diagnosed with chronic cholecystitis/ inflammation of the gall bladder. I have endured 2 years of symptoms & a myriad of tests to get to this point. Other health issues have been discovered along the way, diverticula disease, hiatus hernia, ovarian cyst All of these issues have similar symptoms of varying degree, hence the difficulties with diagnosis. Now I am awaiting surgery in the public health system. Could be up to a 12 mnth wait they say. My condition will worsen over time & possibly affect my liver function, but it’s not classified an emergency. I cannot eat, barely tolerating smoothies & juice only. I have no energy, I’m constantly tired, no motivation, can’t sleep well, can’t exercise due to pain, don’t want to leave the house, none of my clothes beyond pjs fit my ever growing abdomen & I’ve little $ to shop new ones, I have varying pain all day every day & I don’t want to rely on 24hr pain meds which will add to the death of my liver among other things. My house is a shit storm, I cannot will myself to make decisions let alone do anything. I can literally sit in a spot all day & do nothing. I’ve tried reading, podcasts, movies etc now I’m bored with everything & don’t want to. I look at the 3 wk old dirty dishes everyday & quickly turn away & shut it out. Same with the smell in the fridge. I shower once a week . My dr isn’t helping. I’m too tired to find another. Sorry for the mile long thread

DoubleB BPD
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Hi everyone, I have been diagnosed with BPD. Ever since my diagnosis I feel so much worse. I feel crazy. I No longer socialise as I am scared of how I will react if something is said to me or something happens out of my control. I have a supportive h... View more

Hi everyone, I have been diagnosed with BPD. Ever since my diagnosis I feel so much worse. I feel crazy. I No longer socialise as I am scared of how I will react if something is said to me or something happens out of my control. I have a supportive husband but I have ruined most of my other relationships. I overreact and then no one likes me and I am too scared to return. I have had a decent job for 4 years now but this week have had an argument with someone and feel as though my response has ruined that too. I feel as though I should be institutionalised so that I don’t ruin everyone else’s lives around me. Why can’t I just let things go and react like everyone else? When will I learn my lesson? I feel as though I have no hope. I have a few odd friends but I just wonder how long it will take for me to ruin those relationships too.

Blind_and_in_pain Nighttimes
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It has been a while since I posted. Of a day I am normal, happy. but of a night I break down into tears and can't figure out what is wrong with me at all

It has been a while since I posted. Of a day I am normal, happy. but of a night I break down into tears and can't figure out what is wrong with me at all

Jolyn Jolyn
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Hi I am feeling very depressed & anxious I live alone & do not have one at all to speak to

Hi I am feeling very depressed & anxious I live alone & do not have one at all to speak to

JJ_K99 I don't know who I am anymore
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I've been dealing with depression for the first time this year since March and despite the helps I got through medical professionals and friends, I feel like I don't know who I am anymore. I don't know what I want, I don't know what I want to do and ... View more

I've been dealing with depression for the first time this year since March and despite the helps I got through medical professionals and friends, I feel like I don't know who I am anymore. I don't know what I want, I don't know what I want to do and I don't know what can make me feel better. My brain is in constant chaos and during most of the day I just wanna shut it off so I don't need to think. I just feel so lost within myself. In a way, I feel like maybe it was better when I was oblivious to this. I recently read an article about self-esteem and that without self-understanding, you cannot feel anything good about yourself simply because you don't know what you are. So... I guess my question is how can i figure out myself and understand myself more? I tried writing things down about myself but I didn't event know where to begin.

navi afraid of abandonment and...feeling lost?
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Hello! I am new here. I hope I'm not a bother. I dont know what to do, i dont want to talk to my friends and family about this hanging feeling in my chest triggered by these bad intrusive thoughts daily. I have bothered them enough simply by existing... View more

Hello! I am new here. I hope I'm not a bother. I dont know what to do, i dont want to talk to my friends and family about this hanging feeling in my chest triggered by these bad intrusive thoughts daily. I have bothered them enough simply by existing. someone recently put me down for the only thing that gave me pleasure and love, and before that i was feeling extremely down due to the fact i as moving to a new place, everything old and what i once loved is falling apart. i am stuck while the whole world is movie, i am only a teen, just turned 18, i still struggle on coping with my emotions... im also afraid my friends will abandon me and my family, especially my mum, will not accept me for trying to seek help ie a therapist...can someone please help i beg you i tried everything this forum is probably my last effort, i have lost the will to find help. i am helpless. thank you.

SadMum05 Not coping with life anymore :(
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Hi, I’m new here so I’ll just spill it all out...I’m very depressed at the moment. I’m not sleeping, can’t fall asleep till 2/3am in the morning and on work days need to be up at 5am. I’m teary but hiding it well, I have no motivation and could sit i... View more

Hi, I’m new here so I’ll just spill it all out...I’m very depressed at the moment. I’m not sleeping, can’t fall asleep till 2/3am in the morning and on work days need to be up at 5am. I’m teary but hiding it well, I have no motivation and could sit in the chair all day and not move some days. I separated from my husband in January after 24yrs of marriage and even though I know it was the right decision I’m feeling very down for all the changes I’ve had to go through. If it wasn’t for my 16yr old daughter who has been an absolute supporter I wouldn’t be here. I feel very isolated, really only have one friend. I’m on SSNRI for depression but mainly for pain and I doubt it’s working anymore. I don’t know what to do, but I can’t continue much longer like this.

gaslighted1969 Aspergers, OCD, anxiety, and help with getting onto NDIS.
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Having aspergers syndrome and low vision I'm trying to get onto the NDIS for getting assistance with depression and an OCD which has become worse. I've found the treatment that will help, but need someone to advocate for me during the process. As sho... View more

Having aspergers syndrome and low vision I'm trying to get onto the NDIS for getting assistance with depression and an OCD which has become worse. I've found the treatment that will help, but need someone to advocate for me during the process. As short as I can keep this, I was heavily bullied at school with no friends, and with no understanding of autism at the time (late 1970s into early mid 1980s), no one really knew anything. Like any teenager, my puberty gave me the usual sexual desires, but living in a catholic household, such personal moments of deep well being and pleasure were suppressed vigorously. Anything that would allow me to explore my sexuality was taken away, and having no friends at school, things that people know about such endeavors at around 10 11 12 years of age, I never really got a grapple onto until I was around 23 24. The psychological and mental effects have been major. The first of which was having no confidence in breaking into the world. Aside from several tertiary courses, I've never seen paid work. As discrete as my asperger's is (HFA), neurotypicals seem to just pick it up, and their behaviour becomes different. It has been difficult to socialise, make friends, get into interests, and so fourth. I've done a lot in my life, but friendships and involvements are often a come and go thing, usually the longest something lasts around is five or six years before it burns out from it's own course. I had no oxygen during my birth which also has effected me mentally, I need to keep things clean within a certain zone within my unit, which is managable under normal circumstances. Having extra-sensory feel, means I can feel right down to if someone has touched an object in my clean zone such as secreted body oils being present on the objects surface. I would clean it and life moves on. However with some life changing events being a possibility, my anxiety and OCD has erupted a few times of late, meaning whole afternoons and evenings can be spent cleaning a sofa, or wiping down walls. I've got a few of these inflatable things that completely suppress the anxiety when it hits, but I'm needing to get more of these made, which I can't afford, hense why I'm needing help to get funding from the NDIS. It's a one off amount for a custom order and I'll be fine basically for several decades. I looked through google, but trying to track down someone who will assist with the paperwork and who will advocate looks confusing.