Stuck between loneliness and depression.

[CJ28]

Ok, so right now if feels as though my world is falling apart. My one friend sent me a message about about a month ago with the whole 'I miss you, let's catch up', and I am yet to hear a thing since. I'm lonely, and miss her as well, but the depression just stupid me from doing anything. It's the usual story though, she gets a new boyfriend and no one else really matters.

 Being stuck with no friends and depression just makes me feel stuck. I throw myself into my work and do a good job everyday, I bust my guts for the company (even my bosses said I do a great job), and yet last week during end of year reviews I got my bum kicked hard over a trivial matter, and the 2  blokes I work with only work when the boss is in his office and they got raving reviews. I use work as my outlet and now it just seems pointless.

 Each weekend I am curled up in bed,  I don't know what to do. I am over this depression thing. I am at a complete loss with everything.

[white knight]

Hi CJ, welcome

My first reaction is dont make your job your lide's devotion. It's work so it can pay your bills, not a passion nor a past time. Please get your job in proper perspective.

My second reaction about your friend is that its easy to judge others lack of replying to messages. But we dont know their situation- we cant walk in their shoes. Always give a friend the benefit of the doubt with messages. f you rang her she might be totally unaware of your concern. Dont burn a bridge through lack of information.

Finally, read many threads here. Many members have ideas, advice and stories that will help you take the baby steps required to help manage your depression.

Good luck   Tony WK

[Tinker69]

Hi CJ

I totally get where you are coming from. I myself am in the clutches of depression. Doing a lot of sleeping and not getting out of bed. I have had to take time off work as I am not functioning ( leave without pay). My best friend has only contacted me three times in 6 months. I am very hurt by the lack of contact. I was there every step of the way when she had a major health issue, accompany her to medical appointments, there when she had to be operated on, there when she need rehab. So when your friend does not bother to find out how you are, promises to ring but never does, that hurts. It sort of confirms that inner voice that tells you how wothless you are. I know this response is probably not helpful to you however I thought I would let you know that you are not alone in the way you feel.

tinks