Struggles living with bipolar and being in a relationship

[Alex_genetics]

Hello community

I've been in many relationships over the years and have always struggled with the same problem, whenever I slightly dip into a depression, I want to reject my partner, I see all the problems with the relationship and make up problems with her that I wouldn't normally do in my well self. I'm in a relationship at the moment and it has been going really well, except I can't stop the feeling of rejection when I'm feeling low. I love her deeply, but right now I just don't feel attracted to her. I found a YouTube vlogger who spoke of a similar thing happening to her, so I feel like I might not be alone.

Does anyone have any advice or have experienced these kinds of feelings. I've dipped like this once in our relationship and it took until the depression had lifted for me to be able to clearly see her and love her for who she is. Is there anyone in this community suffer with similar symptoms.

Thanks

Alex

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

How true, as a bipolar person I love my wife deeply, we are vompatible and happy 99% of the time, sadly 1% of the time I despise her and we clash.

Firstly some of that clashing could be personality issues so, we should not be harsh on ourselves. Secondly, we do pay a price for our illnesses so we need to bare in mind while we are in a cycle we need to wait until that cycle is on the way back up before we can expect to get back on track.

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Beyondblue Topic the timing of motivation

Your partner deserves total openness of your moods and restrictions. Share it all but avoid swamping them. When happy stay happy, our illnesses can dominate our minds.

As for conflict if you have one I have an answer to this as follows-

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Beyondblue Topic relationship strife, the peace pipe

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