Struggle Street

Wilddog
Community Member

I'm a uni student, and I've been taking antidepressants for my depression for about a year now. I was feeling isolated before coronavirus and now classes have moved online its even worse. It takes it out of me to shower and cook myself a decent meal. IM struggling financially. It just seems that my life isn't getting any better. Like I'm stuck in a really awful rut. I messaged my mum saying I feel low and I'm not okay and she told me to take my dog for a walk because exercise releasing endorphins.

I'm so behind in my classes and finals are in 3 weeks. Literally the only thing keeping me functioning right now is my dog because he needs me. I'm burnt out, exhausted and disappointed. I cant keep living my life like this, it's awful

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Sophie_M
Moderator
Moderator
Hi Wilddog, 

Welcome to our friendly online community! Thanks for reaching out tonight, we know it can take a lot of bravery to do this for the first time especially. We are sorry to hear that you were already feeling isolated before the pandemic. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate at the moment between financial stressors and the buildup of uni work. That sounds really overwhelming and we understand that you'd be feeling exhausted and burnt out. Please know that our community is here for you with words of wisdom and kind words.

We'd encourage you to visit our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. The website will be regularly updated with information, advice and strategies to help you manage your wellbeing and mental health during this time. The website also has contact information for the Coronavirus Support Service. They can give you some support for all of the stress you're experiencing and also advice and referrals for how to get an appointment with a mental health professional if you think that might be helpful.

Many of our members have felt similar and will be able to talk through these feelings with you. Please feel free to keep us updated here when you feel up to it.

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Wilddog~

Welcome here to the Forum, you sound as if you are going thogh a particularity bad time at the moment, but that things have actually been difficult for a long time. Depression can be hard thing to deal wiht, and gng by my experience, does not always remain exactly the same.

Hi, Im not a uni student and im a bit older but we have some things in common. My dog is the only thing that keeps me going and my mum responds to my calls of despair with "just get up and walk the dog"...Im off work with Covid and Im thing to find an antidepressant that works better for me but Im exhausted, Im tired and I can't live my life like this anymore. I have read a lot of peoples posts on this forum and I know Im not alone everyone is feeling like you and me but just with different life situations. I don't tell many people about my mental health as unless they have deep depression they don't understand. People on this forum do and that is comforting me atm.

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

I'm sorry Wilddog, my post was only starting and posted itself, I did not even touch a key -go figure.

What I was trying to say is that the extra isolation, combined with the pressures of study and upcoming finals will have made it worse. Your ability to cope, like mine did, is so much less and even getting up is a major victory.

I’m glad you have your dog, having pet like that does make a big difference, just the fact you get love and have responsibility does that.

Do you find, even if your mum’s suggestion sounds a bit unfeeling, that getting out for that walk does help? I have a dog called Foxy Dog, who will cheerfully drag anyone along where it wants to go.

Can I suggest some stuff?

First of all go see your doctor and explain your situation, the pressure, the not wanting to get up and face the day, shower and cook, the inability to study and the effects of isolation. It may well be your medication and possibly therapy needs adjustment – it often does, mine has been changed umpteen times each time I’ve started to go down.

Second go see uni disability services and discuss with them the best way forward. It is no use your sitting finals unless you are in a position to do yourself justice. I’ve found such services have been very sensible.
With a better medical regime plus less pressure you may be surprised at the difference it makes to your life.

Apart from your mum is there anyone you can talk with, even if you do not go into all the details, but just have conversations, someone understanding and friendly to you?

Would you like to come back and say what you think of these suggestions? Things do get better, as I found out.

Croix




felix mendelssohn
Community Member

Hi Wilddog,

I'm in a pretty similar situation to yourself, except I recently took myself off of antidepressants and have returned home due to Covid. Being at home has made things worse I reckon, given I feel further away from the uni crowd and I'm being constantly berated by the parents for my slothfulness and ingratitude. But enough about me.

Definitely consider getting extensions for any assignments if you can. Most unis seem to be handing out one week extensions even without a medical certificate, but if you can get one (literally just do a telehealth with a gp from your bed and they can email it) you can probably secure yourself another 2-3 weeks of grace. Exams may be trickier but they should still be flexible.

That's probably the only practical advice I can give. Beyond that, you have my sympathies - I am going through a dark patch myself and it is not fun.

Felix