Sick of being told tales!

[RoseToez]

I am utterly sick to death of people making up or exgerating stories just to upset me. I don't understand why people make things up at all.. don't they hear what comes out of their mouth? It's really been effecting me lately.. to the point I'm depressed for days. I just get better then someone tells me something.. I look into it and what do you know it's a lie and I look like an idiot. I'm a single mum of 2 under 4, everyone knows I'm not coping very well. My ex who I left 5 months ago has a 21 year old girlfriend living with him, I was obsessing over it really badly.. but are getting better until this happens all over again. My dad did it for his own pleasure and a family friend has been coming out with really out there stuff. I dont know why theyre doing this! I find it hard to just ignore it because once ive heard it i cant stop thinking about it. I have no social media, I'm just sick of it!

[Nope]

Hi,

I had a friend who throughout primary and high school would lie through her teeth, like really ridiculous stuff eg. Her father was a pilot, she had 6 other siblings (two out of the 6 were twins, they also had names). I one day walked up to her little sister (actual real blood sister) and asked about how her other younger siblings were going...I got satisfaction out of my friend freaking out and pulling her confused little sister away from me.

But there never stopped her telling those same lies later on in Year 12 - I sat there smiling as she told the same stories to the people in our class (looks like her mother had another set of twins but there was still 7 kids).

The point of my rambling was maybe try calling them out it? (Have you tried this in the past?) Or maybe try playing the same games that they play/ reflect their false information back on them?

the last thought might not be ideal, but I am a believer of you piss me off, while treat you the same way to an extent.

Also have you ever told them how it makes you feel?
i think if they respond poorly/badly I would think not contacting them for a while should be proof enough that you've had enough...if they ask you why tell them again what they had done - hopefully they will understand the message a second time.

[white knight]

Hi and welcome

I cant give you much help but you do seem stressed at the moment.

People do exaggerate, tell tales etc, all quite normal actually. You seem not to be able to calmly reject those stories.

Imagine you live in a castle. That castle is your mind and selection process. You get a knovk on the gate, you let them in automatically and take them for tea inside your chamber where they tell stories and upset you.

Mow think about the average person. There is a knock on the gate. He looks through an eye piece to see who it is, askks what they want, then can reject straight away or let him in. Then in the foyer they have a further talk before they go to the chamber. If he is lying he is ejected.

This filtering technique vomes naturally with some but not all. With those it hasnt been learned we must learn how to resist upset.

Eg if a person tells one lie, dont listen to their stories again- walk away. Protect yourself

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TonyWK