Self value

[Sadmum96]

Hi guys, this is really hard to explain but I’m going to be trying my best. When i think about myself, i sort of struggle to view myself as a person if that makes sense? It’s like I’ve gone through so much that my brain just shut off the self awareness aspect. I don’t know if I’ve explained that right. It also has an affect on relationships that i try to have. I cannot fathom why anyone would have feelings for me, not just because i have low self worth but because it just doesn’t compute in my head. I struggle to show my family affection although i am getting better at that

[MsPurple]

HI Sadmum and welcome to the forums

Sounds like you maybe going through a rough patch of self identity, self love which sounds like it is debilitating you. Might I ask if you have spoken to someone about these feelings? I talk to my gp about my feelings of self low self worth and how it affects my relationships. I was refered to a psychologist which really helped. This might be a good idea to explore

Sorry I don't have all the answers. But I thought by answering and giving a suggestion it would help boost this post as well

[Guest_7403]

Sounds like dissasociation to me

[PandorasLocksmith]

Hi Sadmum96,

i relate so much to this, though I show affection to others easily. I've been in therapy pretty much for 31 years and I still feel this way. I refuse to address this face on in my own therapy, but I have made a lot of progress addressing it when it comes to how my child's other parent (my ex) treats me.

Personally I think it is something which is learned early in our lives, in childhood. If you choose to address it in therapy it can be shifted. I know that.

I'd love to hear how you go with this issue. It really resonates with me.

Wishing you above all, abundant gentleness.

-Pandora's Locksmith.