Really Struggling

[startingnew]

Hi Everyone,

I haven't been online for a while but I am really struggling. I don't really know where to start.

[startingnew]

Hi everyone

its been a while since ive been online and alot has happened. To much to list i think but it hasnt been easy for me to say the least. Right now im really struggling with carer burnout and fatigue. i am struggling to bring myself to get supports or to talk to anyone because it usually end up with me getting into trouble. i can feel myself sinking further but even after making some good changes like reducing work outside of caring and putting in some boundaries with family it hasnt helped. i dont really know what else to do.

Does anyone have any suggestions they could share with me?

[Doolhof]

Hi Startingnew,

Do you feel comfortable using the support services like here at Beyond Blue or Life Line. It has helped me in the past to talk things through with people. Sometimes I have just been so confused and frustrated I have just cried, but even that seemed to help.

Is there someone at work you can talk with? Is it possible to have some hours reduced? Are family not adhering to the strategies you are trying to implement (if that is the case) It can be hard to stick to our boundaries.

When I feel like people are not listening to me and my needs are not being considered let alone met, it affects me negatively. Is this some of what you are experiencing?

Can you make a list of priorities and deal with those on top of your list or is that too overwhelming to even consider?

I am sorry you are struggling. These are just my thoughts and some suggestions. They might not fit your situation at all. Just want to let you know I care.

Kindest thought s to you from Dools

[Guest_4643]

Hey startingnew, how are you?

[startingnew]

Hi Mb20lover


Not great atm unfortunatly

[startingnew]

Hi Mrs D


I sometimes use helplines but I am struggling to even talk to them right now. I cant really find the words or the wait time or the session just fatigues me to much that I just want to end the chat and stop talking. I feel a lot of helplines havent really helped me since I have many coping strategies now. Im often told to see gp or just to use my strategies and im tired of hearing that when I really need someone.


My work is on my own so I dont have anyone there either. I just manage my own clients hours etc and ive already basically dropped those in half and some days I dont have anything to do for it.
It does make it hard working as a carer on my own and also my own as a second small job on the side as well.


Family dont listen to me, they only hear and see what they want. The last time I asked for help I was yelled at and told to grow up. I cannot grow up any faster im already much more grown up then most my age and has made it difficult in many aspects of my life because of it.


With the list of priorities I think im doing that already or as best I know anyway. Ive sorted out bills etc and payment plans etc its really a matter of those bills eventually getting paid off. I think for me its much deeper now, even with things sorted it hasnt made life any easier. Im mentally and physically exhausted to the point I dont even want to be in the same house as the person I care for anymore. Its like I need to be right away from everyone and everything to recover or something which isnt going to happen. At the same time even if I was to do that it basically feels hopeless to me.

[Guest_4643]

Sorry to hear. Anything we can do?

[startingnew]

Sorry Mb20lover

i dont know. ive already written things in previous posts above. Sorry im not up for rewriting them atm

[Guest_4643]

Sorry I was just trying to be friendly and offer support..