doesnt know how to feel about me due to his depression

[Ammberr]

So yesterday night my bf and i were having a few drinks then somehow its started into an argument then hes says he doesnt know if he loves me and maybe we should be friends but it wasnt that long ago we were talking of buying a house and settling down ive gone away to give him space and ive gone and checked on him once since ive been gone he says his depression is why hes pushing me away because he doesnt want me to suffer and he doesnt know how he feels about me but i still love him weve been togwther for 3 years and hes struggled with drinking and drugs but ive always stood beside him and supported him and he let me be there for all his other breakdowns and i guess i just need help with what i can do or should do i dont want to make it worse and harass him but its also a huge blow for me i mean this is the man i was gonna marry someday and it just all arlund sucks for everyone involved

[Matchy69]

Welcome Ammberr to the forums and making your first post.I understand where your boyfriend is coming from with his depression.I seem to do a similar thing and push people away.It is really not fair on you.He is so lucky to have such a supportive girlfriend in you.I think you need to give him some space.Drinking and drugs are not a good mix with depression.Is he getting any help for this problem.He really needs to try and help himself with your support it will help greatly.I know it must be so hard on you seeing someone you love like this.
Take care,
Mark.

[Gambit87]

Hi Ammberr,

Welcome to the forums!

I agree with what mark has said!

This is what depression does - I have felt the exact same way when thinking about my partner in my darkest of days.

You feel trapped and you feel like no one understands what you're going through and you feel that you'll just drag everyone else down, so you think the best thing to do is push everyone away.

My best advice would be to be there for him, but dont fuss over him. Encourage him to get off the drink and drugs and seek help. Encourage him to reach out to a GP and a psychologist. Let him know its not weak to speak.

You're partner is so lucky to have someone like you by his side. I feel so lucky and blessed that my partner was there for me when I needed it. She encouraged me to seek help, I didnt see it then, but I see what she did for me now.

All you can do is encourage - youre partner needs to make the step!

all the best! let us know how you get on if you want. We're here for you.