Fed up with life

[John6969]

I am a father of 3 am 50 years old. All my life I have work work and work to provide for my family. I have always made sure that my family comes first . We just bought a new house and gave everything my kids and wife asked for. I made sure to please everyone one , wife never had to work as it was my choice that I work and she looks after the house and kids. But unfortunately ever since we moved to the new house my wife attitude has completely change , I’ve always ignored her bad mood, but I’ve been working to exhaustion to finish our front and back yard, no help from no one as I feel everyone takes me for granted and provider. Lately things has gone from bad to worst between me and my wife at a point that I snapped and told her how I feel, how she ignored me, how I have to support her everyday bad mood etc..... I really feel that am at the end of my capacity.....

[clown_of_mine]

mate is it hot where you are.... cause it is here and every second person is getting snappy. I find moving stressful and I think it is listed in the top ten stressor's. We moved 4 months ago, it's nothing flash , Major Issues from our past came out in a couple of arguments. It's a trying time - but venting here helps.

[Tay100]

Hi John6969

We thankyou for sharing a bit about you with us, we know posting about tough family matters can be hard. It can be hard when we finally let others know how we feel, only to not get the reaction we wanted from those we love. Feel free to use this thread to elaborate further on what is going on for you- a bit of conversation has started which is great to see. Have you managed to get some respite or space to yourself away from your family duties?
Alternatively, you can reach out to other Beyond Blue services here: The Beyond Blue Support Service provides advice and support via telephone 24/7 (just call 1300 22 4636), daily web chat (between 1pm–12am) and email (with a response provided within 24 hours). Let us know how you go.

Tay100

[Andy_1969]

Hi John6969,

I know how you feel. While I cannot offer any advice (I am looking for answers too) I can say that many of us feel the same. I am 51, always tried to keep everyone happy. My wife is dissatisfied with life and I feel I cannot please her. I also feel I cannot offer any decent advice to my kids as I don't have anything to offer.

Like you and your renos, I am going thru a big change too (new job) and this takes up all my reserves. Your post struck a chord with me, and motivated me to join up with BB, so thanks for that. I think I will try their help line too.

Let us know if you get any good advice! and good luck.

[Tay100]

Hi John6969

Just thought I'd check-in and see how you were going with everything since you last went on the forums- there has been a great dialogue, let us know if you'd like to chat more. We are here to listen in a judgement-free way.

Tay100