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Radical effort might help

white knight
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My wife and I have different types of depression so this might not suit all.

I felt depression coming on. Maybe I'm lucky but I get signs, mood swings and sadness. The sadness maybe from dysthymia. At any rate it as coming on 3 days  ago. This cycle normally lasts around 10 days and I push through it. Last time about 6 weeks ago I couldnt push through it. This led to me approaching it differently.

Instead of staying home I asked my wife if she'd accompany me for a drive about 5 kms away to collect firewood. We did that and it was so hard. All I wanted to do was go home maybe stare at the TV or sleep. We got our full trailer load of wood then out of the blue I stopped the car and told my wife I'll be back in 5 minutes. I jogged in one direction then returned. That was hard to do also. It's like running against the tide.

When we got home my instincts were to - yep retire inside to TV. Instead I did some digging in the garden. Then went to my 'man cave' to rearrange shelf items. This is when I have a little cry. It was getting harder. Again I went against the tide and trimmed some tree branches. I didnt even enter our home for a drink as the temptation to collapse was too great...drank from the tap.  Finally a lot of work behind me I was to enter our home then thought it best to visit our neighbour thus delaying again the resting time. Helped my neighbour with the building of his green house which took 2 hours.

A couple of days later and I'm fine. I broke that barrier. Dont know if you can try this but its worked for me. It is hard though

Tony WK

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geoff
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dear Tony, well done for going against the odds of trying to beat this period of sombre, it certainly isn't an easy feat to achieve, but perhaps after such a long time of suffering these bouts, it's enable you to approach it from a different angle.

I feel sorry that you have to try and cope with these periods, but I know that you are a remarkable man, so well done. Geoff.

DWR
Community Member

Well done.

I am definitely going to try this, as I am struggling to break this feeling.

Has your wife tried it?

white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Thankyou Geoff, so nice always to be on the receiving end of a compliment.

DWR, my wife's need to just sleep when in a depressive cycle is, sadly, not "breakable". I sympathise with her a lot. I worked 12 hour shift work in security for many years. We all know that those with mental illness cannot withstand shift work as easily as someone without not to mention the need for sleep is more important for us. I have vivid memories of working midnight to noon and standing up to serve persons on arrival. Zombie is the word.

That is no different for my wife when she is tired. So best I let her be, to sleep and sleep.

Mind control for me is limited but what I do have is remarkable to me when I try something different. "Cycles of sadness" in the past when I'd willingly fall into this period of sadness so I could write my poetry, reminisce about my younger RAAF days or return to grieve for my dad (dec 1992) is like self punishment and it doesnt make much sense. But my medication has stopped me from going there as often. Where it was once a month or so now its once every 4 months. And when that time comes I can willingly "switch" to another activity in my mind. This happened in November last year. I was sitting under our entertainment area falling into that "place". I got up and mowed the lawns. By the time I'd finished my mind had been so focussed  on the lawns the falling had stopped.

Anyway, to answer your question DWR, it isnt for everyone....but worth a crack.

Tony WK