Postpartum Rage

[Diddle28]

Hello, I have postpartum depression and rage. I have been taking medication and am talking with my doctor about this but my partner knows all of this and he even has the rage too but when ever I have an angry episode he gets angry with me and tells me to get over my mood. When he is mad I help him calm down. I dont know what to do, I feel so unsupported and alone. Does anyone have this rage? What do you?
Thanks for any help!

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Diddle,

I feel for you. You’re clearly going through so much...

I don’t have children but I imagine that adjusting to life with a newborn must be such an emotional roller coaster ride...and in your case, you have the additional challenge of postpartum depression. I feel it’s a particularly rough, emotional, lonely and exhausting time for you...

I feel the rage must be very confronting. I also think it must hurt that you support your partner through his rage, but he doesn’t reciprocate it when you’re the one feeling angry.

I understand rage in my own way, even if it’s in an entirely different context to you. I’ve been angry a lot lately, but for different reasons to you.

Sorry, I’m probably not being very helpful. But I just wanted to say you’re not alone in your feelings of rage.

Thinking of you...

Kindness and care,

Pepper

[jess334]

Hi Diddle28,

I am so sorry that this time in your life has been overtaken by postpartum.

I suffered from postpartum depression and anxiety for the first 18 months after my son was born, and only got better after going on medication and seeing a therapist.

I still have anxiety and some days it overwhelms me. Unfortunately my husband has had two bouts of depression since my son was born.

I have also felt those rages though. Mostly against my husband because he didn't understand why I was so anxious and sad and because he couldn't help me fix it.

I agree with you that it is important that you work together. When one is experiencing rage, the other can help engage in calming techniques.

Maybe you could go to a few therapies sessions together so that he understands what you need during those times?

You really need to both be on the same page to get through this.

Kind thoughts, Jess