Opinion needed: Should I get help?

[MrMase]

So, I haven't seen any professionals or talked to parents about my feelings and thoughts so I guess you could call this a self-diagnosis. Only a couple of people know about how I feel, and I just feel like I'm in a tug of war inside my mind.

Lately, in the past months, I have been experiencing heavy loneliness feelings and the reason is because of the constant house and city moving (from my parent's jobs) over the past 8 years. I have never really experienced having true friendships with other people as to others I am "an extremely empathetic person" and I don't blame them. In the last couple of weeks, I've noticed all the things people dislike me for and more reasons to hate myself. I feel like I care too much over things or people I shouldn't and nobody really cares about me, like any friendship I've ever had never really makes it far before I move again.

One friendship I have had through talking online and kept for ages is my good mate that knows about these things, he suggests for me to get help as I'm spiralling too much, and my mate has had Depression since he was 8 ( I think it was chronic). I just hate the thought of being that kid taken out of school to go to counselling or a psychiatrist. I've been dealing with my thoughts in my head for just under 3 months now but they're starting to worsen and I can't drown it out with music anymore.

[Sophie_M]

Hi MrMase,

Welcome to the forums, it's lovely to have you here.

Sometimes depression has a way of creeping in. No one is to blame, sometimes it's just the way it is. We recognise that seeking support through a counsellor/psychologist still has a stigma attached to it, although times have changed and more people are accepting of this. Sometimes when seeking support issues can get nipped in the bud pretty quickly, other issues need more work. We all need support sometime, even if we are the ones who are giving out the support and empathy.

If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Helpline. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under.  

If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

You are not alone and the community is here to support you. 




 

[MrMase]

Thank you for the advice! If I did use one of these chats to talk to others, should I use what I said here for it or something else?

[Sophie_M]

Hi MrMase, you can use both of these chats to discuss whatever you need to discuss. The counsellors will be equipped to help you with whatever it is your dealing with.  

[geoff]

Hello MrMase, thanks for your comment and hope we can give you the support you're looking for as well as talking with to a psychologist.

Can I ask you to mention the 'the mental health plan' to your doctor, this will provide paid sessions per year to visit a psychologist, the doctor will be able to discuss this with you.

Having to move house is something I always dislike doing, packing up, leaving people you associate with either at school, work or those in the street who remain as friends is unsettling as you have to start over again and make new friends, whether you stay in touch with those people in your old address is whether or not it's possible, but the change is disturbing.

If for any reason you have to be taken out of school you could say it's because of any reason you feel comfortable with telling your friends, but only let those you feel close to and who isn't going to spread the word around.

Can I ask you to have a look at 'intrusive thoughts' by placing it in the search bar above, this may be able to give you an insight as to what may be happening, and hope to hear back from you.

Geoff.