Need advice.

[Georgiaghost]

I had been with my boyfriend for three years now. We have a daughter together, and she's only 17 months old. I'm 18. Recently my boyfriend had been acting really strange. Then all of a sudden he broke up with me last night, and won't even give me a reason why. I just don't know what to do. I've been crying constantly. I feel as though I don't want to live anymore. The only way to describe how I feel is in that episode of the Simpsons. When Bart likes that girl, and she says she has a boyfriend. And rips Bart's heart out and says "you won't be needing this"

I really don't know what to do. I can't sleep. I feel sick. 

[Neil_1]

Hi Georgia

That's awful what you've just posted.  When you say your boyfriend was acting weirdly of late ... was that only in recent times or in the 17 months since your daughter arrived?

It's a very difficult situation and things like this are very hard to work through.  Would you know where he went?  Did he give reasons why he broke up with you?

Of more pressing concerns are:   do you have support around you where you live?  Parents, brother or sister or close friends who you can call upon?

Please please hang in there and get back to us soon.  Be close with your gorgeous little daughter ... if nothing else at this time, she'll be a tremendous support to you and hug and cuddle her heaps.

Neil

[Georgiaghost]

It's only started in the last few months, since I moved back to my mums house. 

Everything was all good when my daughter was born.

He hasn't given me any reasons why he broke up with me, I've tried asking, but he won't give me answers. And he did it over text, he won't even come tell me face to face. It just really hurts, cause he was my first real boyfriend.

All he's really told me is he wants to move away from here, and I said I'd move with him, and he told me I can't because I have no job. He's said he wants to live his life, and go do things he thinks he can't do if he's in a relationship with me.

It's just really hard as well on our daughter. She'll be old enough soon to ask me where her dad is, and it'll just be hard for me to tell her.

We live about half an hour from eachother, and I'm always offering to bring her to him so he can see her, but he always says no because he's busy, or he just doesn't want to see her. Then usually I find out that he's gone out with his friends or something. There's been a few times in our relationship, where I've found out he's been talking to other girls behind my back, and I've always forgiven him. And I've caught him out on most of his lies, but I've still forgiven him for that too.

I have spent so much time trying to work my life around what he wants. I feel like if he's going to do this to me, then the last three years have been a waste of time. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to give up.

[Chris D]

Hi Georgia,

I may not hav the experience or knowledge, from what i hav read in your posts in sounds like you are a very nice, caring person that has had her heart broken.

Georgia you say you hav caught him out on so many lies, now is the time not to work your life around him it's time for you to live your life surround yourself with the people and other services to provide you with the help and support you need now.

You have a baby daughter you have to concentrate on her and yourself. Your the one that needs the support so that you can be the best mother possible to your daughter in terms of looking after and just being a mum enjoy being with your daughter. You have to put yourself first now.

If he wants no part of you life or your daughters life than that's his loss, not yours.

I'm in your corner, i will support you the best way i can.

Kind Regards

Chris

[Georgiaghost]

I finally got to sit down and talk to him. He didn't really explain why he's done this to me. But he did lie straight to my face. 

[Chris D]

Hi Georgia,

I'm not sure what to say. You say he lied striaght to your face that tells me that he isn't worth being around. You don't need people like that in your life now, you have more important responsibilities to look after, your daughter. Your family and yourself need to get you the proper support and services in order for you to look after yourself and your daughter properly and safely.

I hope i 'm helping even though i have never been in your position.

I will stand side by side with you through thick and thin, through the bad times and the GOOD times.

Kind Regards

Chris