Need advice on what to say

[PastelStorm]

I’m having a rough time not being able to see my family. We are all grieving over the death of my uncle (my dad’s younger brother)

I’ve never seen my dad so depressed in his life. My mum texted me, she is away for a while taking care of my grandma. She told me dads not coping too well and asked me to call my dad and try cheer him up. I had a long think about what I should actually say to him. But I had no idea... I called him anyway in hopes that the words would just come but I burst into tears the moment he answered. I wish I could help him and talk to him without crying.

What do you do or say in situations like this?

[Ggrand]

Hello PastelStorm...

A warm welcome to the forums..

Im deeply sorry for the loss of you Uncle..my deepest condolences....

Your both grieving the loss of a loved one..It’s okay that you burst into tears....Cry together with your dad if you need to....once the tears have fallen...you’ll be more calmer....then just be your beautiful self....Ask him how he is managing...then hopefully a gentle conversation will follow, telling him you love him and you will always be there for him if he needs to talk...

When my late husband passed away..when my sons rang me..we would cry together and after we would talk, and they would listen to me..Just knowing that they cared enough to ring me..made me feel not so alone..

You sound like a beautiful caring person...just by ringing your dad, shows how much you love and care for him...and that would make him feel not so alone, cared for and loved while he is on his own...

I hope your grandma will be okay as well as your mum, dad and yourself...

Please dear PastelStorm, Talk here any time..we are here for you..

my kindest thoughts with warm care..

Grandy..

[demonblaster]

Hi PastelStorm Grandy and everyone ☺

Welcome darl and good for you reaching out.
I'm sure you'll find there's a great deal of care and support here.

First up lovey just wanted to say I really like the name you chose.
It provokes nice feelingst. I love Pastel and the colours. It provokes thought picturing a pastel storm.

Darl I'm so sorry hearing what a sad time you're going through and your poor Dads doing it so hard too amongst no doubt many 🤗 If you're a hugger here's one and for your Dad if he wants.

Dear Grandy has spoken from her heart and made very good suggestions.

It hurts seeing someone you love in such pain doesn't it and being because they lost someone takes time to adjust to but it will happen especially when he has your Mum and yourself who clearly care so much to support him.
You'd be surprised how much comfort there is just knowing someone cares like you do.

The mind goes to so many levels and needs to work out how to adjust to the new situation which it will in each persons own time. It'll slowly become easier.

Yes it's very difficult knowing what to say isn't it.
I think as Grandy said just be yourself because that way you're speaking from your heart with love and care.

If you and your Dad hug this is very much the time he'll need some hun
Also yes telling him how much you love him is a great support too ☺

I think it's ok to say to Dad how you're feeling too that can often help both of you to open up about eachothers pain.

Often people get comfort too just knowing that someone will be there to listen when needed.
I'm so glad it sounds like you look out for eachother that's beautiful ☺

Wishing you all as much ease and peace as possible in your difficult journeys ⚘

[geoff]

Hello PastelStorm, and can I also offer a warm welcome to the forums.

I want to echo Grandy's lovely comments and feel sincerely sorry for the loss of your uncle and by breaking down when you were trying to talk with your dad pretty well says it all, because he will know what you are trying to say.

Sometimes you don't have to say anything just yet, but your thoughts will certainly be shown.

My heartfelt condolences in this very sad time, but if you are able can we talk about this later on, because the after effect maybe a considerable hardship where we want to talk with you.

Geoff. x

[Genx]

Hello, this is my first time posting, so I'm not even sure if I'm posting on the right place! I don't know how to set up my profile or give myself a name, but I do know that i need a forum like this for support. Could someone help me by answering these questions? Thank you.

[Ggrand]

Hello Genx,

I would like to warmly welcome you to the forums..

If you press onto..5 tips for getting the most out of the forums ..their is a step to step guide on how to post and start a new thread....

I hope this has helped you...and you manage to start your own thread..if you would like to let me know your topic of your new thread, I will pop into yours and support you if I can..,

please let me know how you get on..

My kind thoughts, with warm care..

Grandy..

[mocha delight]

Hi pastelstorm I’m so sorry for you and your dads loss 🤗 and sometimes when we lose someone it’s enough just to know you have someone there for you & that your not alone

[geoff]

Hello Genx, and welcome.

Along with what Grandy has said, you can also click on 'All Posts' and different sections will appear such as 'Welcome and Orientation', Depression and so on.

At the top, there will be a box saying 'New Thread', you then click on that and type in what you want to name your thread.

Best wishes.

Geoff.