My depression is bad and it’s affecting me going to work

[-t-]

Hi, I’ve just lost my great nan in jan, I feel lost and hurt just so much pain. I hate work, I hate people my work doesn’t care and doesn’t seem to help besides when they “have” to. 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

I'm sorry for your loss. As for workmates, I've had 90 jobs and 15 professions in my busy working life and ended up with 2 friends out of all of them. Work colleagues aren't friends and yes, they dont care as it's now a selfish world where basic compassion is avoided. It's sad but the truth. Better to have no expectations of them and acquaintances. 

Remember: how would she want you to live your life? I bet she'd want you to not grieve too much, to grieve then pick yourself up and get on with life. She would like you to be a mirror image of her- to one day be proud of your kids, grandkids and great grandkids. There is honour in that.

Time is the best healer for grief but also you can channel some grief by things like- planting a rose bush or garden in their honour. Writing is my choice and I've got below a poem I've re-written just for you. I hope you are ok. 

GREAT NAN'S SMILE

An old porch chair where your great nan once sat

Her apron in her hand and slippers on a mat

You'd remember when she'd laugh and smile at you

And she'd return the honor and loved everything you do

Thoughts are such now that great Nan has passed away

Glancing at that empty chair each and every day

Sorrow fills your heart when you think of your great Nan

And you still look at that chair and still smile if you can

But all’s not lost and you don’t waste your time

Cause you still see her face smiling so you feel fine

Yes in that old porch chair where your great Nan once sat

Is her apron in her hands and slippers on a mat….

TonyWK

[Bob_22]

Hi -t-,

I'm so sorry about your nan. I can't imagine the pain you're in. Grief is expressed in many ways and it can affect every part of your life. 

Grief is something that takes time to work through. While everyone finds their own way to grieve it's important to have the support of friends and family or someone else, and to talk about your loss when you need to.

Here is some good information about grief on the BB website: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/mental-health/grief-and-loss 

A great resource to use and someone you can call 8am -8pm Mon to Fri is https://griefline.org.au/ 

Hope this helps.

Bob

[jaz28]

Hi there,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your great nan. That must be hard for you. It is understandable to hate work right now. Maybe you need to take a week or so off to grieve this loss? Would that be possible for you to do?

Give yourself time to grieve, and cherish the memories made with your great nan! She is in a better place now.

Sending love,

Jaz xx

[geoff]

Hello, and thanks so much for posting your comment.

I'm so sorry that your great aunt has left you, and people at work wouldn't have any connection with her, not like you, so they won't offer much much help to try and ease the pain you're going through because of no association and any remarks wouldn't be consoling to you.

This could even happen with other family members who weren't as close as you were with her, we hear the pain you are going through and feel very sorry that you have to endure this.

There must be many memories between the two of you that you document in a book, it doesn't matter if only you can read this over time, they are precious thoughts that need to be written down.

Geoff.

Life Member.