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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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123101_6 can i go to a mental hospital?
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TW: sh, suicide, physc wards ive asked twice to stay as an inpatient in a hospital bc i dont feel safe at home from myself (once on nov and once in feb. for sh). both times ive been refused bc i am a young teen (so in their eyes was ‘obviously faking... View more

TW: sh, suicide, physc wards ive asked twice to stay as an inpatient in a hospital bc i dont feel safe at home from myself (once on nov and once in feb. for sh). both times ive been refused bc i am a young teen (so in their eyes was ‘obviously faking it’ as they told my mum ) i was actively sh-ing so i wouldve thought i would be able to stay, its gotten worse + thoughts of death have started popping up heaps again. pls fully honestly answer if u think i wokld be able to stay bc if i ask to and they say no again i dont think ill be able to ask in the future + ill stress my family out alot. i really want help and ive gone through sm options in my head, i have a therapist a gp a physciatrist and everything like that but its not enough. im not close enough with my friends to go their and my family is unable to keep me safe here.

Lydia_Glover I am suffering with depression and harmful thoughts but can't tell my parents.
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I am suffering with depression and harmful thoughts but can't tell my parents as they say mental health and depression is just an excuse for people to be lazy. I have no one to talk to about it as my school counsellor has to legally contact my parent... View more

I am suffering with depression and harmful thoughts but can't tell my parents as they say mental health and depression is just an excuse for people to be lazy. I have no one to talk to about it as my school counsellor has to legally contact my parents. What can I do? I am really suffering. I have to hide in the bathrooms to cry, or I have to hold back tears and emotions. What can I do??

Suet suet Ugly look... Ugle face ......
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Hello, Just like to write down my feeling tonight. This has been sitting in the deepest part of my soul. I really hate my ugly face; I hate my body being too short; I especially hate the pimples constantly living on my face... When I look at the mirr... View more

Hello, Just like to write down my feeling tonight. This has been sitting in the deepest part of my soul. I really hate my ugly face; I hate my body being too short; I especially hate the pimples constantly living on my face... When I look at the mirror, all these negative feeling have put me down and again tonight it hurts. This is me and always be me and I am unable to change. I have this feeling since when I was little. Now at the age of 47, I still have to deal with it... Has anyone had an idea how to change your thought; change you mindset? Or at least trying to like yourself a little bit? I know in reality everyone has some sort of flaws..nobody is perfect but I seems to ok be the worst.

alasdayr Does it ever get any easier?
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Two years ago I was diagnosed with major depression and "quiet" BPD (and more). I have been on medication for over 2 years as well as times in psychiatric facilities. I have a loving wife who has supported me amazingly despite also battling with depr... View more

Two years ago I was diagnosed with major depression and "quiet" BPD (and more). I have been on medication for over 2 years as well as times in psychiatric facilities. I have a loving wife who has supported me amazingly despite also battling with depression of her own. I am still employed, but some days I find it hard to work more than a couple of hours. I still have daily thoughts for harm. What I have learned over the past 2 years keeps me from acting on such thoughts (DBT, mindfulness, daily exercise and more). I also am suffering anhedonia (lack of ability to feel pleasure, part of the depression). Its hard to do nice things for myself when I don't feel worthy and I get essentially no good feelings from them. Does it ever get any easier? I want to want to live for me. I live for my family. I live to provide. I just don't feel like I live for me. alasdayr

DanielC92 Depressed and unsure what to do anymore
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Hi Everyone, I have had depression, anxiety & insomnia for just over 2 years now as a result of how my former employer treated me and unfairly terminated my employment. I have tried pretty much every antidepressant and TMS with no relief / change in ... View more

Hi Everyone, I have had depression, anxiety & insomnia for just over 2 years now as a result of how my former employer treated me and unfairly terminated my employment. I have tried pretty much every antidepressant and TMS with no relief / change in my condition. I am pretty much done with everything because things are not getting better for me. Doe anyone have a similar story where they have been unfairly dismissed and as a result been depressed, etc? How did you move forward?

Squid999 Loneliness in Anxiety and Paranoid thoughts.
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As of recent, I’ve fallen into a rough place. I’ve been feeling lonely for a while now, but its starting to take a toll. All of my friends have either moved, or don’t really want to hang out. I struggle to make new friends, and I dont even trust new ... View more

As of recent, I’ve fallen into a rough place. I’ve been feeling lonely for a while now, but its starting to take a toll. All of my friends have either moved, or don’t really want to hang out. I struggle to make new friends, and I dont even trust new people, as I’ve been bullied my whole life pretty much, i always feel hostility from people. I’ve never really gotten over being bullied, but I’ve been able to manage how I felt about it until now for the most part. I’ve also fallen back into having panic attacks whenever I even leave my house. This is something i dealt with a few years ago, and I was mostly able to overcome it, but now it’s come back in full force. And out of no where, now I’m beginning to get paranoid over things that have come from nowhere, like my food/water being spiked or something. This has all come up in the last couple of months, and it’s been affecting my sleep. I sleep at most four hours a night now, and I’m tired constantly. I cant Sleep though because I’m always anxious, and I’ve been really under the weather about it.

Rupes79 Stopping medication unintentionally
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Hi Everyone, I started on new meds a couple of months ago and finally found an antidepressant that worked for me with minimal side effects. I’d been suffering depression and suicidal thoughts for over 12 months leading up to this. Nothing was working... View more

Hi Everyone, I started on new meds a couple of months ago and finally found an antidepressant that worked for me with minimal side effects. I’d been suffering depression and suicidal thoughts for over 12 months leading up to this. Nothing was working. Fast forward to last weekend when I went away and forgot to take them with me and missed 3 days. My mood dropped right back to where it was and the suicidal thoughts returned. I resumed taking them as soon as I returned but not feeling any positive effect as yet. Is this normal? Am I that reliant on this medication I need to take it to feel like it’s worth being alive?

ulu I am so disturbed
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I have had depression in the past, I am a sensitive person who talks less. Currently I have changed my job industry quite a few times, also have some regrets and my family thinks I never cope well in a stressful situation. I used to be in creative in... View more

I have had depression in the past, I am a sensitive person who talks less. Currently I have changed my job industry quite a few times, also have some regrets and my family thinks I never cope well in a stressful situation. I used to be in creative industry which I miss a lot. So at the moment I am in hospitality same with my husband, it has been 7 years of our marriage but my husband was mostly unavailable due to his job type, it is very demanding and constant stressful due to employee turnovers and other factors. I feel stuck here. All the time we are stressed and thinking about work. Like either come home and still work or he cannot come home even after 12 hours. We work in the weekends too. I had an ectopic pregnancy, I am failing in my personal life, I am trying to cope doing everything I can. My husband moved on, but me still grieving. Which I can't explain in words it is hard. I wished to move out of the city but unable to find a job where we used to be is becoming hectic in our lives, this is not what I wished for. I had difficulties to get pregnant because of the stress, but it seems it is now getting serious. I do not know what to do? At times I just find its better to pretend rather making anyone understand, no one has time. Feels so so lonely here. My tears are my problem as I understand everyone has a more important job to do. I never share much with my parents as they get scared, (they are in a different country) my mom has mental health issue. I feel I am regretting everything, from relocating, changing jobs and the eptopic pregnancy. I sometime feel it is all my fault as I tried resolving these issues but somehow it always stayed back.

Fight_or_Flight Is this a depressive episode?
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Hi, I live a very stressful life, job, home life and constantly feel like I'm in flight or fight response. I'm dealing with some health issues with a loved one and it's changed our lives as we know it. I have previously been diagnosed with Anxiety bu... View more

Hi, I live a very stressful life, job, home life and constantly feel like I'm in flight or fight response. I'm dealing with some health issues with a loved one and it's changed our lives as we know it. I have previously been diagnosed with Anxiety but of late I just feel so flat. I feel completely isolated with life, I eat, sleep, work and repeat. I feel like I have no excitement in life and when I do it gets cancelled due to health issues, this leaves me feeling really down and flat. I'm tired all the time, loose patience easily, can't be bothered or feel like I have the time to clean my house,look after myself and would love to just go to bed and not have to deal with the outside world. I constantly feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders and have moments the tears just fall and don't stop. I feel completely alone in my feelings and just smile on the outside. I already take medication for my anxiety but I just don't know how to get out of this funk. I feel broken!

Doberman38 First depressive episode
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After my pretty constant state of anxiety from last year on, I guess it was only a matter of time before a depressive episode materialised out of it. I used to be a very optimistic person. Now, everything in the world just seems to be getting worse, ... View more

After my pretty constant state of anxiety from last year on, I guess it was only a matter of time before a depressive episode materialised out of it. I used to be a very optimistic person. Now, everything in the world just seems to be getting worse, not better and I'm feeling increasingly despondent about the future. While my family and I are trying harder and harder to lift me out of this state, I just feel worse and worse. The problem is that this greatly frustrates them - my dad can't stand me avoiding the news and my mum gets emotional and says 'I can't deal with this anymore.' I feel incredibly guilty and frustrated by their reactions. I have to pretend I feel fine. If I actually expressed how I was feeling I think it would only agitate or upset them. I honestly don't know what to do.