Marriage seperation

[Guest_41130637]

I am 77 years old and have been married for 49 years. I have known my wife for more than 50 years. She has decided to move out because I have taken her for granted over the years and not taken her feelings into account. I have regarded her as my rock and now I am in a major state of depression. I have always said that I could'nt survive without her.

I have always had the fear of living by myself and this seems that it will happen.

Because of my age, the group of close friends I had since a teenager have either died or retired interstate. I dont have any relatives to help me as my sibblings have both passed.

The mutual friends we have, are not receptive to me as she told tgem how she felt and that she was going to move out before she told me.

I feel so alone and empty and my self worth has hit rock bottom

Being an older male, I know that making clise new friends is a difficult task as people my age have already form clise frienships with others over many years.

I dont wish to burdem y children or grandchildren but feel so lost and empty.

[ABC01]

Dear Guest_41130637,

I am not in your circumstances, so can't relate to separation from your loved one and especially after so many years.

However there are groups for your age bracket that are specifically to meet new people and socialize. You just need to check local neighborhood houses or online to find ones in your area. There are also men's shed type groups too. I can understand that you may feel uncomfortable at first, but they maybe a great outlet for socialization. And you maybe able to hear other people's stories too.

It must be so hard to be in your position and feel lonely. I too understand not wanting to burden your family. But my sister told me "That she will tell me if it is too much for her." So perhaps your family can be there for you too and tell you if it is too much for them. Life is too short unfortunately, so pulling away from your family may become a regret. Something to consider.

I hope you are taking care of yourself and finding some self love.

ABC01