Just a vent- no answer required

[AspyGirl]

I just want the pain to stop. I am almost being bullied by my team leader and manager. They seem to know just when to stop short and always do it in private.

I cry most nights. After a comment this afternoon, I left work a bit early, barely keeping the tears back. Now, I can't stop the flood.

I have no friends I can speak to - I am Aspy as well so don't really do social interactions.

I got so worked up the other night that I yelled at my poor partner and 7 year old, then cried for three hours straight. They said they couldn't calm me, they could only watch. My partner said just being there, watching my pain was agonising for him too.

I just want to be happy but I don't know how. Been through so many psychs etc. I just don't think they take me seriously.

[white knight]

Hi Apsygirl welcome

The psych do care but some don't connect like all other people. That's jus the way it can be. So at times, like tonight, you have contacted us and we can relate...a lot. Birds of a feather flock together right?

I am not a social animal either, find it hard to blend in and I don't feel accepted. Then one day a few years ago I said to myself- stuff them, I am who I am and proud of it.

I also realised that many people out there have problems that never surface, they don't seek help and they pick on others.

Some of us are not suited to full time work. We cant do the endurance needed. Some are better off with two part time jobs so their surroundings change more.

I'm glad you posted. That took guts. I admire people with gusto.

These are a few threads I've written that might help you. Just google them one at a time.

"Topic: So what are their mental illnesses- beyondblue"

"Topic: Bullying- beyondblue"

"Topic: Is crying good for you?- beyondblue"

"Motivation, search and rescue it- beyondblue"

Finally, many of us, most of us, have our low periods. Some of us are able to accept that these low periods come and go and likely will never stop coming. We accept that this is the way it is and after we have our crying time and start to pick up, we get back to our lives and continue on. As you get older it gets easier for many.

Feel free to repost anytime. We are here to help. We are sufferers also and we have a dedicated team of experienced members that can advise you.

Tony WK

[TheNotSoDarkHorse]

Hi Aspygirl! Welcome to the community.

I am terribly sorry to hear how you feel. I know how it feels when someone tells you that they no how you feel and all you can feel is frustration in feeling that they don't really know...but trust me...I understand.

I stopped getting shifts in a job a worked in for a year last year which I am thankful for as I totally had the same experiences. Working fast food just wasn't for me nor was the rude wake up call of some peoples lack of patience and empathy for others who don't function in the same way as them.

Whilst I am not 'aspy', I do no what it feels like to not have any friends that really feel true or real. I am heavily introverted and have never been much of a talker. I personally feel their is something VERY wrong with how we socialize in 2016. Maybe I am delusional but I just feel like everything is so synthetic, plastic and fake.

I am sorry that I couldn't provide anything of substance but I truly hope you can find some form of support or assistance on this forums. Even though it seems like others don't care in the real world that we all have to deal with on a day to day basis, there are people here who can help.

Wish you the best,

Brandon

[blondguy]

Hi Aspy...I did read that you said 'no response required' ...and Echo Tony WK 's heartfelt and kind response!

I also have great difficulty socializing and I have just realized to accept myself for who I am...not the social butterfly I thought I was...I do feel your pain Aspy. I couldnt stand the psych's when I started to visit them as I felt they didnt understand me either. In the end I started to give the visits time to the psychs could help me help myself.

Brandon has also articulated his advice from experience that he has just posted above Aspy...

I hope your weekend is good to you Aspy

Kind Thoughts

Paul

[Lost_Girl]

Hey Aspygirl,

Just in case you are not aware, your work should have a Human Resources representative or department that you can speak to confidentially about the behaviour of your Team Lead and Manager.

Even if you do not want to confront them as this can be a hard thing to do particularly without evidence etc, the HR rep may be able to give you some advice on what you can do. It also helps to have that on file in case the bullying becomes more frequent or severe in nature in the future.

Your HR may even look to organise training for management on their responsibilities to employees and to refresh them on ethical behaviour in the work place. Most companies have a policy in place regarding harrassment and bullying.

I hope this helps.

Kind thoughts

[geoff]

hello, again you have said that no reply is necessary, but your comment deserves to have them, because when someone wants to vent, then that means they have a problem they want to tell other people.
If your circumstances are that you can look for another job then that could be your best choice, but as Carol has said everything needs to noted down on what these people say, even though they may dispute it, they will fumble up somewhere along the line.
What's happening is that all of this is coming home with you and affecting your family life and when this happens is not good, and perhaps it maybe a good idea to go and see a lawyer who deals with these situations on no-win no-fee basis, and remember they could be doing the same to other employees, so just try and listen to what is being said amongst them all, and if you feel comfortable you may want to discuss it, even though it's something which you are not in favour of. Geoff. x