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It feels like I am sinking again

AGentleSoul
Community Member

Hi Everyone,

I have been meaning to post here again, but I felt like I was bothering people when I did. I feel like I needed to post again because I need to talk/write more. The past year has not been so good for me because I hate living where I am, I am getting mixed results studying at university and it feels like I am slowly losing my trust and faith in people again. I will openly admit that some issues I have put on myself because I have been going to strip clubs and my only physical contact with women has been with sex workers. This is because I am starting believe the only positive interactions I will have with women is if I pay them! I hate where I am living because are neighbor's son in law coward punched and assaulted my dad whilst he was on the ground! The neighbour's son in law also abuses his children and it's hard listening to that almost every single day! My neighbor claims he has it under control, but he doesn't. I want to stay at uni, but I am starting to feel isolated and having doubts if I can pass. I am worried that I will fail and get kicked out! It is also stressful because I am also on centrelink payments, so if I get kicked out I lose payments which is only my only source of income at the moment. It feels like I am standing in quicksand! I guess I am just asking to be heard and if anyone else can relate?

Regards,

AGentleSoul

5 Replies 5

Just Sara
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

I hear you soul-man;

It's great you've decided to post again. Regular BB members can form quite close cyber relationships on here, which plays a major role in aiding their mental health.

As we feel more at home and safe, we tend to talk more which elicits open responses, and ends up helping both parties. If it works...work it! People at times visit our site thinking they may hook up with someone, but it's not that kind of place.

Yes, loneliness is disheartening, and as a young man, sexually frustrating. My concern as an oldie, (sorry...can't help it) is for your health and well-being while you engage with sex workers. Please take care ok. (Promise that's the last time I'll nag 😉

It takes courage to discuss these issues too, so well done! I'm wondering if depression and anxiety are your main concerns, or is it more about fear of the future and low moods due to home life and pressure from Uni?

The reason I ask, is to identify if you'd benefit from a men's line or forum as well. I don't know of any specifically, but I'm sure they'd be out there. Maybe a group in your town could offer support too.

Finding a woman to be intimate with may end up being the cure for other problems. I hope so. It takes some people longer than others to find their style of communication and confident interaction.

Please be patient and practice on strangers at the bus stop, or girls in your classes. It doesn't have to be for dates; friendly banter prepares us for bigger and better. And; you can't go past a smile for immediate connections. 😄

There are plenty of existing threads re similar issues to yours, and info below in the blue section links. Others may reply with more help too.

I wish you well on your path of self discovery.

Warm thoughts;

Sez

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hello AGentleSoul, please never feel as though you're bothering us, this is where you can vent, ask questions or ask for help and everybody is welcome.
Being with sex workers isn't really having a decent conversation, because they will only agree with everything you have to say no matter what topic you're discussing, because you're paying them.
There's a definite pattern here and from one problem that makes it lead onto another till you've come to the point where you don't want to stop going to uni because you'll lose your centrelink payment, maybe, but it doesn't stop you from enrolling in another uni course if you are losing interest, perhaps at another venue where you can leave the place you're in now, this will alleviate problem two being next to your neighbours son in law. Geoff.

AGentleSoul
Community Member

Thank you for your responses,

I will admit I do suffer with anxiety and depression and I find talking about it helps me immensely. I use to talk to my dad all the time but I don't get much alone time with him because he is working and we don't really have to much private spaces where we live to talk. I also see a psychologist but that is only once a month. I will try and post on here more because I find it does help.

Regards,

AGentleSoul

hi AGentleSoul, you will always be welcome here. Geoff.

Ready and waiting when you are hun;

Take it easy and if things get on top of you, don't forget BB helpline 1300 22 4636 or lifeline 131114 for real-time talking with someone who listens and cares.

Hugs;

Sez x