I need help knowing

[Quiggs]

Hey I’m not sure how to start this off but I’m currently 18 years old and I’ve been having thoughts for the past 2 weeks jumping between the idea of if I have depression I tried the test to see if I may have anxiety and depression and I got very high as my result

For a while now I have been jobless and havnt even got my license yet but I’m close to getting my license and I might be getting a job soon but even before that most my nights I haven’t been able to go to sleep without crying and feeling how worthless and lazy I am

I’ve been lazy for a long time ever since I turned 16 to now 18 years  whenever my dad is home from work he is always doing something and I never think to help him until now realising I’m just really lazy and just have no motivation to do anything and it’s because I always get distracted playing games on my computer but even when I’m playing games my friends online stuff make fun of me for not having a job and not doing the effort to get my license but I feel like just doing it at my own pace but I can’t cause I feel pressured to do this stuff quicker to get a job and my license but for a long time I have realised I suffer from anxiety and at a lot of times it’s difficult I have trouble talking to strangers very often and I stutter and can’t think quickly to respond 

but recently I have just been feeling down and sad. Not motivated to do anything and I just feel horrible for being lazy I just can’t put in the effort to try and I think to help my dad when all day he is working on something and my mum asks me to do things but I just forget about them and I feel horrible for not helping my dad after all he never stops working on things even when he gets home from work

I almost forgot to add but no one knows how I feel cause I don’t want to trouble them my dad or mum. Brothers and anyone else I have never thought to come out about it cause I don’t want to worry them

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Quiggs,

A very warm and caring welcome to our forums..

I am so sorry you are going through all this…

Please, don’t be pressured by your friends to get your licence or job any quicker then you can….in your own time is time enough and good enough….

Depression takes away all of our motivation to do very much of anything…being 18 years old, you can visit your Dr on your own…which if it’s okay,  I would like to gently urge you to….Please try hard to make a long appointment and tell him/her about the high results  of your online test….talk honestly and openly about how your feeling within yourself…your Dr can help you with a proper diagnosis then set you up with some professional help…..

Maybe sit down at a quiet time with your parents and talk to them about your thoughts and feelings of depression and anxiety….most parents, want only the best for their children, if your unable to do that and you have decided to make an appointment with your Dr..and you need some support, ask one of your parents to go with you…that could be a way of getting them to help understand how your feeling so depressed and anxious….once they know your parents will be able to be their for you and help you through the dark rough patches that depression can take us to…

Hoping your feeling a bit better and today will be a better day then yesterday…

We are all here for you, to help support you the best way we can….please talk here whenever you’re feeling up to it…

My kindest thoughts Dear Quiggs, with my care,

Grandy..

[Quiggs]

Hey grand I couldn’t thank you enough for helping me feel like it’s a safe space here but I still have the issue where from what I know my mum is going through bad anxiety at the moment and I really don’t want to put the pressure on her with this and I’m not sure about my dad he is nice and all but I just don’t know how to come out to talk to him about it through text? Or face to face but I am Definitely feeling a bit better this morning but I’ll maybe come back later afternoon but one of my problems is that I don’t have any money for a gp or a dr so could I just talk to someone the private chats every now and then to talk about how I feel and get some emotions out?

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Quiggs,

I am really pleased that you’re feeling a little better today…

Kidsline…1800 55 1800…is for phone counselling for children and young adults up to 25 years old…

Lifeline…13 11 14…

BB has trained counsellors, you can talk things out with..24/7…phone number is...1300 224 636…you can give these numbers a ring and talk over your feeling…these are free of charge….I’ve used BB trained counsellors a few times and I find them very caring, non judgmental and understanding…..maybe give those numbers a try….

Just wondering if you have an Aunt, Uncle, cousin or family friend that you trust…that maybe you could talk to about your feelings of depression…

Kind thoughts..

Grandy..