I have no future

[Ants]

I am 63 and I have depression I just do not have anything to look forward to any more. I have no money in the life just is not worth living for I am married for 39 years. I feel my life is just a waste I got sacked about 2 years ago after being on work cover  and was set up by the management and I took the bait I told them how I was feeling 2 days prior but they kept on bullying me and I lost my cool. 

I was an aged care worker for about 6 years and it was the best job I ever had. My union has given my case to the work cover  tribunal and have lawyers fighting my case for 2years. 

I have my ups and downs I am at the darkest at the moment I just think life is not wort living everything I do has been a failure My mother used to say I would not be any good. I have struggled all my life never had a good job been rubbished and made fun off I was called dummy never had friends. I am nothing the family I was raised in and brother and sisters I never see they never get in contact with me. I was not even mentioned on my mums grave. So life sucks 

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[tanhal1]

Hi Ant,

Your post is sad and it does indeed sound like you have had things in your life that do suck.

But - what if there was a life out there where you were happy, and laughed and had friends and things were nice and exciting and you were valued.

Maybe that life is there, I don't know. What if it was, but it was only our perspective on life stopping us from getting it.

Damn, stupid, stubborn negative perspective.

All the best xxoo

[geoff]

dear Ant, life is always out to try us, and any person with depression always struggles, and I am sorry for you and what ever has happened at work.

A workcover case always seems to take at least 2 years before anything has been settled, which just prolongs the pain.

Due to the fact that the management set you up should be taken into account by your solicitor, plus what is going to happen for you in years to come.

My workcover case took over two years to actually go to court, this was after a head injury, and the court decided that all future medical bills, plus any counselling and medication are to be paid by work cover, this has saved me a great deal of money, but it wasn't my fault and I certainly didn't ask for this damn injury, which happened in '83 and has affected my life considerably.

I tend to believe that the longer time passes in regards to a settlement, the greater the chance you will have a favourable decision, but don't accept any offers made to you before it's settled, because this amount of money is only minute to what you deserve. Geoff.

[Chris_B]

Hi Ant,

Thanks for joining the forums.  I'm really sorry to hear you feel like life has been a waste.  I doubt that the many people you helped in your time as aged care worker would feel that way.  You obviously loved that job and that would have come through to the people you worked with everyday.

You mention being married for 39 years - are you still married?  Does your wife know you are feeling this bad at the moment?

I think you still have a lot left to give.  Have you thought about doing some volunteering - something small at first, while you're starting to come out of the fog, something that can connect you back with people.

You've got a lot of anger, resentment and hurt towards your family and with what's happened at your job; I think it would be a good idea for you to be able to talk to someone in person about it.  You can call our support line on 1300 22 4636 at any time, and your doctor will be able to put you in touch with some counselling services.  

There's always somewhere to turn to in dark periods of your life, and I'm glad that you have come here to talk to us.  I hope you'll keep posting here, about anything you like.

[Krackers]

Ants, I am new here but don't give up on your life. For the last 4 or more years I have been in a similar situation trying to make sense of work and home life whilst discovering a solution to depression and anxiety.

Take it day by day with a positive attitude.  Don't dwell on the past,  look towards a new and brighter future.  In the last couple of weeks I attended a seminar where I switched from being a victim to being a survivor! 

 The other thing I took away from it was don't focus on the things you can't control.  I had been and it made me bitter. 

I feel better now with a more positive attitude.  Still on medication with a long road to travel. 

I was let go from work also, and now another WorkCover battle is ahead.  What will be, will be. I have good solicitors and professionals looking after me. 

I can't control the outcome,  but I can live my life to the best of my ability. 

Keep your head up and believe in yourself.