I can't cope with it

[SadHumanwithaCat]

Hi. Depression and anxiety has ruled my life for over a decade, but I still can't control my emotions enough to live a normal life. I quit my job, I can't make myself do my assessments for my studies. I just can't push through. Everyone thinks I'm lazy but I feel so overwhelmed. Any advice would be great. 

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear SadHumanwithaCat,

A very warm and caring welcome to our forums,

I am so sorry you have been struggling with depression and anxiety for over 10 years, I’m wondering if you’ve reached out for help with your GP or student health officer for some professional help…they can help you understand your depression/anxiety and give you some good coping tools….I tried for a few years to fix* myself, without succeeding, then I spoke to my Dr who set me up with a mental health care plan….and haven’t looked back since….just like a broken bone…depression/anxiety needs professional people to help us…

Depression does that to us…takes away all the joy out of life and also our motivation to do things….I still get overwhelmed and find my emotions hard to control at times, have days where I won’t leave my home….but it’s not everyday now like it used to be…

Distractions is a major coping strategy that I use when I’m overwhelmed…it helps for the moment, but with practise it gets easier to spread that moment a little longer….Do you have things that you like doing, that might help distract your overwhelming thoughts and emotions?…Your forum names suggest to me that you have a cat….animals can be a great distraction for times we feel overwhelmed..I have 3 dogs living with me….or maybe it’s me living with them…they are a great comfort to me…and have helped me many times, when I’m down….

Please talk here anytime you feel up to it….thinking of you with kind and caring thoughts…

Grandy…

[james1]

Hello SadHumanwithaCat,

Welcome to the forums, it's nice to meet you.

I'm saddened to hear you feel so overwhelmed and have been struggling for over a decade. It sounds absolutely exhausting and it's honestly no wonder you feel like you can't just push through. This is a lot to bear and effort alone often isn't enough. 

In my own experience with depression, finding the right support (not just any support) was what really helped. Basically, I was doing everything I could, but I really needed people around me to help prop me up when I felt like I was failing. What I found really damaging was people saying I needed to do x, y, z because it just felt like they were accusing me of being lazy or not doing enough.

I understand you are trying to get some tips, so if you don't mind me asking, are you okay to share with us what kinds of support you have already and if there have been times in the past where you've felt something helped, even temporarily?

James

[Elephant86]

I know how feel it feels impossible

I beleive that you posses the power with in you to face your difficulties I know it seems like a mountain to climb . You have to remain positive and try to work through. My pathway is also not so easy as well because Im bipolar. I know it's hard and you feel like giving up but you need to have hope that every thing will be okay.

I understand that the depression can be terrifying and I understand the fear you must be going through. You must realise that you have the strength to face this and work out step by step to walk this path with dignity and strength. It is only you that can make the decision to face the adversity and win. 

We as a community are always here to support and guide you and you don't walk alone we will try and guide you and protect you on your difficult journey. There is no fear when there is hope, love and guidance. I promise you will get through this you must just take it a day at a time one step at time.

You must figure out what do I want to sort out first and what is the best way to tackle the situation how do I best solve my problem.

You have the power and the strength with in to face your adversity and find your path to a better future and beyond blue is always there for guidance if you need it

Have a wonderful day and I hope this makes you feel better.