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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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white knight Mental challenges
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We are indeed challenged. We have ups and downs, while "up" we dont think the "downs" will return and visa versa. We've spoken a lot about acceptance our biggest challenge https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/acceptance-is-this-our-bigges... View more

We are indeed challenged. We have ups and downs, while "up" we dont think the "downs" will return and visa versa. We've spoken a lot about acceptance our biggest challenge https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/acceptance-is-this-our-biggest-challenge/td-p/147694 however, the correct approach to that challenge depends on many factors. Know your demon He knows you cant control him, he knows you are reactive and try to extinguish him with rage... exactly what not to do. When rageful or angry we lose logic, no different when having a domestic argument when emotions are high.Time your response to the challenge. Our depression or difficulties often stand in the way of any possible progress. Look at them like waves on a beach, huge wave stop you so wait until the swell drops. The reason waiting doesnt feel natural is that it means we have lost control of our mind.Return to your doctor. With the reduction of bulk billing locations it isnt easy for many suffering hardship, do what you need to do and not underestimate the importance of that 1:1 chat and treatment professional medical staff provide.We plan our lives yes? Shopping, savings etc... we should get into the routine of planning our challenges as long as those plans are rubbery in terms of when to face them. Flexibility is your friend. Surrendering is not an option. Slip into the finer things in life. Take those daily walks, watch the birds, the flowers and smile at those walking by... appreciate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpfuMFsBgNkAll is ok. Let those tears fall, cradle your loved ones, talk to those that have the capacity to help and those that know what you are going through. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3aFh7OJMNAImagination and fulfilment. That's where hobbies and interests come in, activities that occupy a damaged mind is a major diversion to our bad thoughts. Faith. Long term our body, mind and acceptance gets better, it matures. You'll time your rebound and smell the roses.TonyWK

Stepup Nightmares again
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Hi Folks, I have been having severe nightmares for a decade or so. That's not to say I didn't have them before that but they have well and truly faded away. I'm a 64 year old male who has a long history with major depression but I thought it had gone... View more

Hi Folks, I have been having severe nightmares for a decade or so. That's not to say I didn't have them before that but they have well and truly faded away. I'm a 64 year old male who has a long history with major depression but I thought it had gone away for a while, oh well, I guess it never really goes away completely. Anyway the nightmares seem to be about being trapped or lost. Up until 5 years ago I was having nightmares about being trapped in a past marriage to someone whom I despised, then it was about being trapped in work environs and being unable to move forward or back. Last nights episode was about being lost and unable to find my way out and going around in circles. It was a relief to wake up this morning to realise it was only another dream but I was distressed none the less. Now I have a cuppa and have calmed down to my usually calm demeanor but I would surely like to find a reason for the nightmares because and better still, ways to avoid them. Regards G

Noodles1968 Loneliness and depression
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Hi lovely people, I’ve been lonely and depressed for a few years. I’ve tried to make it obvious how lonely I am but it feels like no one is listening. I ring my sister at least once a week but she is really busy and never rings me back. I speak to my... View more

Hi lovely people, I’ve been lonely and depressed for a few years. I’ve tried to make it obvious how lonely I am but it feels like no one is listening. I ring my sister at least once a week but she is really busy and never rings me back. I speak to my niece who I am close to. One of my dear cats had to be euthanised last weekend and my sister put up a nice reply on Facebook but hasn’t rung me since and I’m always the one who rings her but thought it would be nice of her to check on me but she hasn’t. I hate feeling like I have to beg for compassion or someone to care. Sorry, this is probably a stupid post. I’m a bit desperate and if it wasn’t for my other 3 beautiful cats. I am so tired and sad.

CherryBerry Extreme Anger Problems
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I’m not so sure where to write this, so I hope here is okay.For quite a while now, I have been having awful, uncontrollable anger surges. It happens at random times of the day, and It’s just been getting more and more common.I’ll use what just happen... View more

I’m not so sure where to write this, so I hope here is okay.For quite a while now, I have been having awful, uncontrollable anger surges. It happens at random times of the day, and It’s just been getting more and more common.I’ll use what just happened around 20 minutes ago as an example. When I get angry, i find everything extremely annoying. I just want to break everything, but I urge not too which just makes me more angry. I have very violent thoughts when I see my family or my pets. I want to scream and just hit something. I feel super uncomfortable and I shake a lot. This can late for up to 30 minutes, where at some point I’ll start to break down crying; as if it’s some sudden switch. It’s becoming an issue at school and I excuse myself to the bathroom to do some meditation to calm down (which works in school, but it doesn’t stop me from feeling this way at all and sometimes I can’t even meditate because I become so restless). Then after some time it’s just stops. Almost every time I forget how it just stops but it does, and it’s fine again.Almost all of the time my anger just doesn’t feel as though it has a purpose. A lot of the time it’s not even because things aren’t going my way or anything, it’s just sudden. Sometimes, though, I can start to feel this way at the thought of my personality. I’m quite submissive and hate being told off, so lots of people took advantage and of that and I just wish I weren’t so hurt by what people say or do.my mother says it’s my hormones, and it could be, but I’m not so sure if it is.i have been diagnosed with depression, ADD and social anxiety, so maybe it could be connected to any of these.my main point of my post is just to talk about this to at least someone. And I would also like some advice of what to do. I hate feeling this way and I feel like it’s getting in the way of doing things normally.thank you for reading

Waffle- Ready to admit I need help
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I've always been depressed. Recently, I've been going through a lot. My depression has become worse as a result. I'm sleeping in late everydayVery tired, low energy, it's a struggle to do basic chores and take care of myselfI don't feel joy. Hobbies ... View more

I've always been depressed. Recently, I've been going through a lot. My depression has become worse as a result. I'm sleeping in late everydayVery tired, low energy, it's a struggle to do basic chores and take care of myselfI don't feel joy. Hobbies and things I usually enjoy don't make me feel much at all. And because they take energy, they end up feeling like chores that I don't want to doI'm withdrawn and I don't want to see people. I don't want them to see me like this This has been going on for weeks now. It feels like my body has collapsed. It probably has, as I've recently quit my job and left a very stressful situation. I know what I'm describing is vague and generic. I can break it down into smaller parts and go into more specific problems later in separate threads. It's not all doom and gloom, just mostly. But fundamentally, what I'm wondering is this: I need professional help. I intend to do that. But even if I get help, will I ever be able to fix myself? I've tried therapy in the past. It helped. It might help this time. But I feel so severely depressed this time that I don't know anymore. Do I need medication? I've never tried that. It seems unrealistic to expect a pill to magically fix things. But at this point, I'm certain that my brain isn't producing the chemicals it's meant to. It probably hasn't been for a long time. I feel pathetic watching days go by and wasting away. I know I should be doing so much more. And there are so many things I want to be doing. I just don't have the willpower for it. I want to claw my way out this hole. I haven't given up. But it's tough. I don't think I've ever felt this lost before. I exercised the past 2 days, breaking a month-long hiatus. And I've done a lot of research on mental health, making vague plans to sort myself out. It's not much, but I'm trying to celebrate the little victories I do have.

Coco18-8 Breaking point
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I have been depressed for quite some time. I have a therapy session in three days. I am at my absolute breaking point, everything feels so heavy. The thought of tomorrow seems so overwhelming, let alone waiting three days to see my therapist . I’m tr... View more

I have been depressed for quite some time. I have a therapy session in three days. I am at my absolute breaking point, everything feels so heavy. The thought of tomorrow seems so overwhelming, let alone waiting three days to see my therapist . I’m trying to hold out to see them but there is so much sadness consuming me , idk when it will ever end. Even just writing this I know I’ll be sitting here sad afterwards, I truely feel so alone and I don’t know what to do.

Baileysmells Depression is returning with a vengeance
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I was slowly getting better for a while there, but after a few unsuccessful dates the loneliness came. Since then I've just been regressing back to how I was at the start of the year, thoughts of wanting to not be here are coming back at random like ... View more

I was slowly getting better for a while there, but after a few unsuccessful dates the loneliness came. Since then I've just been regressing back to how I was at the start of the year, thoughts of wanting to not be here are coming back at random like before. I'm just so tired. Tired of this battle against my mental health. Tired of my anxiety stopping me from being who I want to be. Tired of having no one to share my day with. My assessments are beginning to pile up and I've been neglecting my study in favor of disassociating and sleeping all day. I'm so over taking medication. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm actually no better than I was a year ago, I'd just been able to keep my mind busy for a while, now It's back to being sad and wishing the morning won't come. I don't know how I'm going to continue, I'm being forced to become more and more independent and it's hitting like a truck with all this other stuff. Existential issues are arising.

Suzbj This saying about depression made sense to me - does it make sense to you?
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The friend that held my hand today and has been through depression herself said something that was passed onto her. "Depression is anger turned inwards". Still out on that re the jury of my mind but it did hit a cord. What does everyone else think? I... View more

The friend that held my hand today and has been through depression herself said something that was passed onto her. "Depression is anger turned inwards". Still out on that re the jury of my mind but it did hit a cord. What does everyone else think? I think there is some merit to that saying to some degree... Cheers Suz

walrusLog Will I be able to look back at this dark stage, or will it be with me forever?
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Some days I look into the mirror and all I see is hate for myself in everything I am or do. Recently after a long term relationship ending, I have struggled with self esteem and having confidence in myself. While being in a relationship I still strug... View more

Some days I look into the mirror and all I see is hate for myself in everything I am or do. Recently after a long term relationship ending, I have struggled with self esteem and having confidence in myself. While being in a relationship I still struggled with a purpose in life but now it has just gotten worse and have turned to self hatred and suicidal thoughts now starting to arise. I have friends and family who listen and it helps but its just been going on for so long I don't see it ever going away. I was just hoping someone here might have some personal experience or advice in general to offer, realistically is this going to stay with me throughout life now?

Hgfddvg Lost in life
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for some reason I think I hate myself I don’t know why. Feel like I’m wasting my life. Hate working see no way out, I’ve hated every single job don’t see how this will ever change. Waking up getting out of bed is really hard. Don’t stay happy for lon... View more

for some reason I think I hate myself I don’t know why. Feel like I’m wasting my life. Hate working see no way out, I’ve hated every single job don’t see how this will ever change. Waking up getting out of bed is really hard. Don’t stay happy for long. Think about death a lot, suicide. No one likes me. Why my whole life do I have to invite myself to things, I’m never actually wanted. Hate how my friends don’t want to do anything anymore. Hate how I look, I’m ugly Don’t like hair, eyebrows too big, crooked nose, fat chin, smile, teeth aren’t perfect,too hairy, weird arms, un even shoulders, small legs. Hate my personality I wish I was someone different. I wish I had direction, I see no future. Dont know what I’m doing with my life. I hate that I’m 30 everyone else has figured out there life and I haven’t. I still feel like I’m 18. I feel like I’m nothing. I’m scared one day I might self harm