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Mental challenges

white knight
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We are indeed challenged. We have ups and downs, while "up" we dont think the "downs" will return and visa versa. We've spoken a lot about acceptance our biggest challenge  https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/acceptance-is-this-our-biggest-challenge/td-p/14769...  however, the correct approach to that challenge depends on many factors.

 

  • Know your demon  He knows you cant control him, he knows you are reactive and try to extinguish him with rage... exactly what not to do. When rageful or angry we lose logic, no different when having a domestic argument when emotions are high.
  • Time your response to the challenge. Our depression or difficulties often stand in the way of any possible progress. Look at them like waves on a beach, huge wave stop you so wait until the swell drops. The reason waiting doesnt feel natural is that it means we have lost control of our mind.
  • Return to your doctor. With the reduction of bulk billing locations it isnt easy for many suffering hardship, do what you need to do and not underestimate the importance of that 1:1 chat and treatment professional medical staff provide.
  • We plan our lives yes? Shopping, savings etc... we should get into the routine of planning our challenges as long as those plans are rubbery in terms of when to face them. Flexibility is your friend. Surrendering is not an option. 
  • Slip into the finer things in life. Take those daily walks, watch the birds, the flowers and smile at those walking by... appreciate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpfuMFsBgNk
  • All is ok. Let those tears fall, cradle your loved ones, talk to those that have the capacity to help and those that know what you are going through. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3aFh7OJMNA
  • Imagination and fulfilment. That's where hobbies and interests come in, activities that occupy a damaged mind is a major diversion to our bad thoughts. 
  • Faith. Long term our body, mind and acceptance gets better, it matures. You'll time your rebound and smell the roses.

TonyWK

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sbella02
Community Champion
Community Champion

TonyWK,

 

Thank you for this, I really needed it today. Acceptance or lack thereof can indeed be a massive barrier when dealing with our own mental health. Imagination and fulfilment are particularly important protective factors, as they promote creativity, problem-solving, and resilience. 

 

Love this list.

 

SB

Oh what would I do without creativity?

Thankyou

TonyWK