I always feel i don't belong here

[randomguy81]

Hello

I am a New member , but i have been struggling for a few years with either anxiety or depression or both( i don't know)

i don't enjoy life, haven't found my purpose in life , don't enjoy work, don't enjoy speeding time with the kids or wife and don't like been home,i always feel like i should not be here

am i alone in this ?

[Sophie_M]

Hey randomguy81,

Welcome to our forums and thanks for posting tonight. It takes a lot of courage to finally reach out and we are so glad you did so. We're so sorry you're struggling with anxiety and depression and that you are not able to enjoy things. We hope you will find the support you need from our wonderful community.

Even though you might feel like you are alone, please know that there is always support available to you. You can call Beyond Blue Support Service any time at 1300 22 4636 or web chat or email available at www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport

You can also contact our friends at Lifeline 13 11 14 and Suicide Call Back Service at 1300 659 467

We hope you will keep posting here to let us know how you're doing, whenever you feel up to it.

[geoff]

Hello Randomguy81, welcome to the site.

Although I'm not a qualified doctor, can I say that both depression and anxiety are normally related together in one way or another, one day one may be more dominant than the other, while the next day it can be reversed as I have experienced myself, so how you are feeling, you aren't alone in anyway.

We want to thank you so much for joining because being like this means that you need support from those who have experienced this themselves and understand exactly what you are struggling with and please know that all we want to do is help you.

I am a father and was in the same position years ago and only wished that Beyond Blue was active back then so I could have people who would understand and I could talk with, now it's possible people are here to help you with your worries, so please if you can get back to us, that would be great.

Take care.

Geoff.

[Jazz and Blues]

Hi randomguy81,

Thank you for taking the step to reach out on the forums. The challenges you are struggling with are well known to so many of us who visit these forums. Whilst we cannot completely understand your unique situation, please know that you are in a community of like-minded people who have battled similar challenges to you.

Meaning and purpose are critical aspects of what it means to be human. Why do I get out of bed? Why do I bother? The answers often seem elusive, particularly when we are feeling down or depressed. I am wondering if your experiences are a clue that you may be battling with an untreated depressive illness as you alluded to.

Many people find that reaching out to their GP can be a helpful first step in getting access to a psychologist to start to work through these issues with. Alternatively, the resources Sophie_M has provided are there for you if you are feeling particularly distressed and need help now.

Sometimes, just reaching out on these forums can help us to feel as if we are a little less alone.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you go.

J&B

[LJpd81]

You're not alone. I have similar feelings when it all feels too much.

Just want to offer hugs

[LJpd81]

Hi Randomguy, are you ok?

[randomguy81]

not really

i'm currently in a bad place, i have 2 major problems

the first 1 is i do things i want to do, once i do them i hate them, for example i want to talk to someone and then when i do i wish i didn't, happens a'lot when i call the help services number or talk to family, i can say hello and then i don't know why i called

2nd problem i have is i don't like what i have in my life( family friends work), but then i don't know what i want

hence the reason why i don't want to be here anymore, i find it to hard,

[randomguy81]

still new to this, im not doing to good, and just stuck with 2 major problems in my life, not sure how to cope with them

[Sophie_M]

Hey randomguy81,

Thanks for posting here. We're sorry you're in a bad place. We hope you'll find the support you need here on these forums. We are also reaching out to you privately to offer additional support.

Please know that there is always support available to you. You can call Beyond Blue Support Service any time at 1300 22 4636 or web chat or email available at www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. You can also contact our friends at Lifeline 13 11 14 and Suicide Call Back Service at 1300 659 467

Remember, you are not alone and there is always help available.

[randomguy81]

thank you