Hi @Missberri
Great idea jumping on the BB forums and reaching out. My name is Raman, nice to meet you 🙂 I'm sorry to hear that you feel somewhat alone and that you are starting to sink. Suffice to say, we are here to help. And who knows, perhaps even be the support network you are seeking. I know from my own experience battling major depression that a single voice or written response can make a huge difference. But it all comes down to firstly reaching out, which you have done and takes a tremendous amount of courage. I applaud you 🙂
Would you be at all open in sharing with me a few things Missberri? For example, what was your motivation for moving out 6 months ago from your parents and do you mind if I ask what you do during the day? ie: work or study? When you say you feel you're 'losing yourself', would you mind at all elaborating? I remember when I lost myself years ago that I stopped doing and pursuing all the things that motivated me and I was passionate at for example, cooking regularly, playing golf, going for runs etc. Do you have any friends or family near where you have just moved?
In terms of ideas for meeting people, I have a few I used to do when I felt alone and wanting to build a network when I didn't really have one at the time. Here are a few suggestions:
* Help out at the local RSL (if there is one around you)
* Visit libraries and look at helping a local charity...this was a great way for me to expand my network some time ago
* Brave the storm and try a restaurant/bar by yourself with a book 🙂 Now, I'm not at all promoting drinking when I say this as if you don't that's fantastic and completely fine. But sometime when you are alone somewhere, other people might approach you who are also feeling somewhat alone. This happened to me a lot and I have a lot of great memories from doing this.
* Smile at someone and if they smile back, start a conversation or compliment them. People don't smile enough these days, and you'd be surprised at the outcome.
Whilst I appreciate your probably not feeling overly confident at this point in time, my advice is to take small steps one at a time. You've taken a great first step by writing about your situation on the BB forums which is fantastic. Just remember, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Just remember Missberri, it's not always being the 'life' of the party, it's just showing that there is still some life in you and by the sounds of it, you have plenty of it to share 🙂
Regards,
Raman.
