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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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ElyseH Being negative or being realistic!
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What is it when you dont believe what people say? All my life ive been some would say negative person, but at times i think im being realistic. I think im not smart, that none wants me or my friends wouldnt care or miss me. But my friends tell me how... View more

What is it when you dont believe what people say? All my life ive been some would say negative person, but at times i think im being realistic. I think im not smart, that none wants me or my friends wouldnt care or miss me. But my friends tell me how awesome they think i am. They tell me i am smart and they miss me. Ive tried to listen but i have come to reality, theyre my friends they have to say those things. My brain just doesnt believe any of it. I cannot see the truth in it and im sick of trying to make out i believe it just because someone has said something sweet or kind about me. The reality is...i dont believe what they say is true and i wish theyd listen to me and agree with me. To be honest if i was smart, in wouldnt be thinking things like this.

greenkazbar Poem - Loving Chi
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Loving Chi (c) I look in the mirror, what do I see? A very strange image staring back at me. Where is the kindness, I like to share? Shrouded in blackness, as I stand there. The mirror is hazy, blurry and stark, Why does my image look so dark? I try ... View more

Loving Chi (c) I look in the mirror, what do I see? A very strange image staring back at me. Where is the kindness, I like to share? Shrouded in blackness, as I stand there. The mirror is hazy, blurry and stark, Why does my image look so dark? I try again, I focus ahead, My eyes stare back, ever so dead. I rub my eyes and try once more, I see my dark side, ever so raw. My hand lifts up, in a straight line, What stares back, has a hateful sign. My image is rigid, stoic and black, It’s shamed, it’s ugly, but starts to crack. I stare once more, with kinder eyes, This time I look close, past all the lies. I glimpse the kind soul, lying within, I start to smile and lift up my chin. I leave with this image, held tight to me, And start my day, with a loving chi.

Scott76 Doing so well for a while....
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I've been suffering what my psychiatrist calls a severe depressive episode for over a year. In that year I have lost my dad, mother in law, and best friend to cancer. I've been in a mental health ward in that time for three days and barely at work. F... View more

I've been suffering what my psychiatrist calls a severe depressive episode for over a year. In that year I have lost my dad, mother in law, and best friend to cancer. I've been in a mental health ward in that time for three days and barely at work. First saw the psychiatrist a month or so ago and after a few tries it seemed that we got my meds right - the medication really helped and improved my motivation. yesterday I accidentally took my night meds in the morning. I slept most of the day. At the end of the day got some bad news about my mums pension resulting from her selling her house. The feeling of dread and hopelessness returned. Had a horrible night's sleep, dreamt I was at my friends dad's funeral. Teary and overwhelmed.

Sharny Is that it, I mean is survival the only thing?...
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Forgive me if I'm not grateful for my life in advance. I am grateful for all that I have but it's the ME bit I've never settled with. I go through the motions, go through the necessary things in life and feel settled that I can achieve them. I can lo... View more

Forgive me if I'm not grateful for my life in advance. I am grateful for all that I have but it's the ME bit I've never settled with. I go through the motions, go through the necessary things in life and feel settled that I can achieve them. I can look after a house, children and a husband. Over the years I've found new ways of coping with stress and my first thought each day is centered around finding the most effective ways to combat stress, or at least what my brain perceives as possible stress. I'm well aware that others might not find some things that I do as a stressor but I've learnt that I can't afford to focus on their ways because I'm not them. All I can do is focus on myself, the children and my husband. I've dabbled here and there increasing my duties outside of home etc and for the most part coped ok. The nagging thought I have though in life right now is, is that what my existence is? I mean, is it just survival or will I get further nourishment to top me up? It's like my brain is not getting the feel good endorphin mix, I take a sauna and swim but don't get long term nourishment, I ride my bike but only feel temporary pleasure, I make my jewellery but the creative side fills me only for a second. My brain seems to feel devoid, depleated of a long term satisfaction. I worry that despite me doing things with my children, asking them about their day and generally being there for them that they feel my dissatisfaction some how. My thick skinned sort of strength though keeps me forcing myself to accept things and keep moving forward or along. I use keeping out of hospital as a yard stick for my own success in dealing with mental illness but sometimes wonder if this is acceptable line of thinking. Again, its all survival based living. Again, I sound like I'm complaining, I should not. It's just a genuine question because I'm doing all the things I can to live a life of harmony but my ability to really feel things is lacking right now. Most people accomodate a broken leg, arm or the like. With mental illness, it's just not possible to get an undertstanding going. How do people out there with mental illness get your struggle across, get an understanding going without upsetting people of what you can cope with? I actually just feel really lonely right now. We have to exist with people, they are in our lives.

Missberri Feeling burnt out
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Hi all, I just wanted to post because I'm not feeling too great at the moment. I'm juggling part time work and uni and I'm starting to get very drained. I spend every weekend all day at work and come home to study and do assignments and still don't g... View more

Hi all, I just wanted to post because I'm not feeling too great at the moment. I'm juggling part time work and uni and I'm starting to get very drained. I spend every weekend all day at work and come home to study and do assignments and still don't get enough done and I have shifts every day except for wednesday and thursday when I have full classes at uni and try to get my work done. I'm feeling really overwhelmed and I don't know what to do. I was in a similar situation last year but for some reason then I was coping well and this semester I just feel like my head is going to explode Literally at the end of last year most of my close friends moved away for different reasons and I feel not having any of them around is also taking a toll and I'm starting to feel very alone. I feel like I don't have the time though to try making new friends right now because I just want to focus and get uni done but every day I just feel myself getting more and more down and I'm starting to feel like I can't cope. I've been waiting for so long for my work to hire someone new so I don't have to work as much as I am but they just keep screwing around with it.. even though they get heaps of applications they take forever to just pick one person to interview them then most of the time it doesn't end up working out. I've really been wanting to quit this job because I'm tired of it and my boss is really selfish, but i can't just have no income and i can't even get centrelink because I've been studying for longer than I should have been. I've tried applying for other jobs when i get the time but i don't really hear back from them.. Anyway I just really would love on how people cope with this kind of thing because I feel like im reaching my limit and i just feel lost about what i should do.. I feel like i should just suck it up and just get through this semester but at the same time I feel so awful every day and I'm only just feeling more and more awful as time goes on.. but yeah if anyone has any advice that would greatly appreciated!

Debzmites Feeling so pathetic
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So my research has said that people with BPD have seriously low self esteem, check. Apparently growing up we didn't get the validation and emotional support, check. Im struggling big time, I let a man know a few weeks ago I had feelings for him and h... View more

So my research has said that people with BPD have seriously low self esteem, check. Apparently growing up we didn't get the validation and emotional support, check. Im struggling big time, I let a man know a few weeks ago I had feelings for him and he had no idea and didn't feel the same way, I've been feeling completely pathetic since. Im sure we will discuss this Monday in therapy. I just wish I had someone on my side that I could talk to and work through it with. I finally understand now why I get angry at my Dad, I'd talk to him about what I'm stressing over and he says nothing, then I crack it and say I don't know why I bother talking to you. I definitely don't talk to my Mother, she throws everything back in my face. Sorry, just feeling so lost.

MJae Advice on seeking help
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Hello, I am seeking advice on how I approach help for depression/anxiety. My backstory…In 2014, my Dad passed away in my 2nd year of Uni, which took a hard toll on my physical and mental state. I gained a lot of weight and was upset all the time. It ... View more

Hello, I am seeking advice on how I approach help for depression/anxiety. My backstory…In 2014, my Dad passed away in my 2nd year of Uni, which took a hard toll on my physical and mental state. I gained a lot of weight and was upset all the time. It affected my work and also my relationships with people. Being an only child, my Mum and I didn’t talk about it much which also didn’t help. The following years I began to pick myself up I started to change my diet and activities and lost a lot of weight, I was healthier and happier. I believed my personality changed from that and my confidence has not been the same. However over the years, a couple times a month I fall into this depressive state, where I get soo upset over little things, I get frustrated easily, I cry and think so negatively. This week I reacted to something that was said to me and instantly blew it up out of proportion to myself and got worked up (not publicly but once I’m by myself). Last year I was given medication by my GP for my anxiety because my hands constantly shake (they still do a little) but I never continued them. I am not aware of any family members or friends who have gone through these feelings and I don’t think I am comfortable bringing it up to them. Also, the next day or even an hour after the moment of being in this state or frame of mind, I calm myself down and relax, then to me it seems like I’m fine and that everything is ok…But really deep down I don’t think it is. Sorry, back on track…So what I am really asking is: - If I was to try and seek help, how do I initiate this conversation? I have never approached someone about how I’m feeling (Other than my partner, who is supportive and wants me to see someone). - Is this a normal thing to be stuck with depressive and negative thoughts, then soon after calm down and think that everything is ok and that you were just having a moment? Would this behaviour be causing me to not seek help? Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated, Thank you

The_Possum Struggling tonight, books to help?
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I'm struggling tonight with depression. Can anyone recommend good inspirational books to read for people with bipolar or depression? Thanks x

I'm struggling tonight with depression. Can anyone recommend good inspirational books to read for people with bipolar or depression? Thanks x

Sharny Surface stuff again.
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Hi, My name is Sharny and I've visited here some 8 months or so ago. I'm feeling a bit lonely in thought right now and just feel the need to talk in an environment where I know others are facing similar issues. At times I just feel a swirl of emotion... View more

Hi, My name is Sharny and I've visited here some 8 months or so ago. I'm feeling a bit lonely in thought right now and just feel the need to talk in an environment where I know others are facing similar issues. At times I just feel a swirl of emotion, I'll wake up and feel I've let everyone down, I'll feel guilt for being me and it's a horrible feeling. I've had to scale down the amount of activity I engage in because the pace my family and I were keeping was driving my state into a knot. I tried making each Sunday apart from commitments that come along on occasion, a day of 'free' time, that is no commitments. It worked for about a month. We decided on that day if we'd like to take it easy, have unplanned spontaneous time to mearly just walk, ride bike, cook at home or what ever. Our lives have so many activities between both kids sports on Saturdays and week nights already that for family health one day per week Mum had formulated non-scheduled time. For me, it became like needing air, food or water. Space to be just what ever. I could get up and be non-scheduled, non organised.Recently a friend wanted our family to join them on a Sunday, for which we did. Then she was asking every Sunday and it become 4 consecutive Sundays in a row of getting together, BBQ lunch from 11am then afternoon still together and pizzas by dinner and all of us were still together socializing until 7pm or so. I'm lucky to have such people as are my family. But...You see, I feel this is the only spot I can even describe without feeling like a complete outcast, my feelings of disgust at myself. I 'needed' our Sunday's free for my mental health. But because I felt like I was rejecting her I just kept saying yes. I touched on the fact that I require at least some of our Sundays to just be unplanned but she looked at me like what?? I find its beautiful requesting our company, but I strangely can't keep up every weekend. I told her, for my mental health I require to slow things and cant be out or entertaining every Sunday. I organised our lives to accomodate a need and it just doesnt work. There seems to be no room for looking after mental illness. I feel like no one gets it. I just feel horrible, I feel like I try to accomodate my illness in a busy family but it doesnt match what's going on for other friends, people. So I'm heading down the track again of putting aside what I need and going with what's expected. I don't want us to loose people because I can't keep up.