HI need of help

[lemontime]

Hi imma just come all out here since it's all confidential, I'm 21 just been through the run of my life..
The end of February I got told I was gonna be a dad & i didn't take it well at all, I said some shit that I shouldn't of said & my gf broke up with me, we then we're going through the idea of being single parents that I didn't want, I kinda felt like I got used for sex & other stuff..
We kinda talked on and off after the break up, I was at work a few weeks ago & got a text saying she had a miscarriage, I didn't even find out much about what's happened & it kind of destroyed me as i ended up coming to terms with having a kid & then everything got taken away, we are still split up & I've been trying to battle this on my own..

Sorry if some parts don't make sense, any help would be greatly appreciated!

[Rumples]

Hi lemontime,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Losing a child is an extremely traumatic time for everyone involved. Please know that we're here for you and you're not alone in this.

Have you spoken to your family or close friends about how you're feeling? Often, they're the people who understand you best and can give the best advice. Can you talk with mum/dad? Do you have that kind of relationship with them?

Also, think about talking to your family GP. They can often be quite helpful in directing you to grief counsellors and the like.

Looking forward to hearing back from you.

Your friend Rumples

[White_Rose]

Dear Lemontime

Welcome to the forum. As Rumples has said, remember we are here.

Have you tried to contact your gf? I ask because no doubt she is as devastated as you. It's really horrible. Perhaps she would like your support at this time.

I join Rumples in suggesting you have a chat with your GP. It's surprising what they can do.

Please keep writing in here.

Mary

[lemontime]

Hi all,

Unfortunately my mum & dad aren't really here to hold me up for this one they've had my back for a lot of crap & they've said they're over it this time.

As i said mind me if anything is a bit confusing my ex girlfriend has me blocked on everything & there's no way we are going to be able to talk again as whats happened, I don't think her family is happy with her or me & her friends have sent me a few rude messages saying I wasn't here to support her yet I did everything i could do in my power considering the little information I was getting, I'm going to see someone tomorrow about it all.

[Rumples]

Hi again lemontime :0)

Thanks so much for replying, well done. it's so good to hear from you again.

It's a pity mum and dad have taken that position, however, there's obviously history there that we're not aware of.

It's news that you're going to see someone tomorrow about it all. That is a VERY positive step towards helping you deal with this. Well done to you!

Don't worry about what your ex girlfriends friends say, they're always going to take her side, it's natural. I'm sure your friends are taking yours.

Please come back to us anytime you need to chat to someone independent. We're always here for you.

Rumples :0)

[White_Rose]

Good to hear from you again. Hope all goes well tomorrow. Will you be able to chat afterwards?

Mary